Social Vampires . . .

[Digimon_Sommelier]

Q: How do you identify (or figure out who are) social vampires/soul-suckers in your life? And what should you do to distance yourself from them so they don't waste your time or ruin you?

[Tycke]

I thought you meant like literally vampires lol.

I identify vampires/soul suckers just by how being around someone makes me feel. If I feel more energized and happy in their presence they're worth sticking around. If I feel less energized or worse in their presence, or if they put me down, I won't stick around them. It's easy for me because I've moved a lot. Sometimes it takes physical distance to really get away from negative people. But if you must stay around don't meet up with them, don't respond to them, avoid going where they work or maybe find a new job. That said you need to consider how much more a major life change will affect you and whether it's worth it to stay around a negative person if the alternative is worse.

[дух]

I don't have any friends in the real world and I pretty much live as a hermit. People can't hurt you if you don't let anyone too close.

[Takatofan1986]

I don't have any friends in the real world and I pretty much live as a hermit. People can't hurt you if you don't let anyone too close.

...I really hate how true this is and how much I identify with it.

[Digimon_Sommelier]

I confront them verbally (first) but if worst comes to worst, if it's truly to get them out of my life for good: I beat them the f--- up.

[Wio]

It's unpleasant to read all the unsocial comments in this thread. There is only one guy in my life that I think I could call a social vampire, and I could easily cut ties with him but there is some stuff I want to get back before I doing so.

I've been thinking about life with my family versus life as a bachelor. My bachelor life is so much more comfortable, and it doesn't bother me that I have to do everything for myself. What's bothering me is the feeling that there is something about the ups and downs of family life that is more important than the comfort of living alone. Maybe I'm only saying this because of the whole "grass is greener on the other side" effect. I honestly don't know, but it has been really bugging me.

But going back to the topic, the easiest way to rid oneself of a social vampire is not to give them any metaphorical blood. This seems to be something I'm naturally gifted at.

[Takatofan1986]

It's unpleasant to read all the unsocial comments in this thread.

Don't get me wrong. I'd LOVE to have friends. But I'm differen't and look different, and people suck. When I was working, I had a 2-3 year period where I had 'friends' and would hang out with them sometimes, and it was great. But I guess that's all I was meant to have.


I still do things with family, went out of town with my sister yesterday. And I have a boyfriend, but its long distance so we only see each other once or twice a year. So.. yeah.

[DOOM!]

Social vampires don't real!
Now, bloodsuckers, on the other hand, needs a thread worth discussing.

[Digimon_Sommelier]

Social vampires don't real!
Now, bloodsuckers, on the other hand, needs a thread worth discussing.

You kill me. They're real and they had betta' know.

[DOOM!]

You kill me. They're real and they had betta' know.

Those are called energetic vampires, look them up, they drain your mojo/life force as you talk with them. One of my friend confirmed that he is one of them; we don:t spend much time with him, he's exhausting and kinda boring, but always has something to talk about.