Possible to just be friends with the opposite gender?

[illu]

According to your statement I would have to be drawn to every girl I meet or know, then. That's quite a feat!

Chicks dig guys who play the piano

[Jacob's Ladder]

No....there will aways be one of the 2 that will develop feelings more than just friendship. It's how we are designed to be...on a genetic level. With exception being those of a gay nature.

According to your statement I would have to be drawn to every girl I meet or know, then. That's quite a feat!

Did I say "every girl"? No, I didn't. I said we aren't wired to be just friends...there will come a time where a friend or us will want more than friendship.

[Mr. Panda]

Did I say "every girl"? No, I didn't. I said we aren't wired to be just friends...there will come a time where a friend or us will want more than friendship.

To be completely honest with you, there are friends of mine I seriously wouldn't want a relationship with. Actually, none, because they're friends. Ill admit that there are exceptions, though. I'm engaged to my best friend.

[DOOM!]

Best thing about being bff with a girl: telling her she's fat, dumb, infatuated, badly/scantly dressed without holding back, and she has an IQ over 30, she'll take it as a friendly opinion to change her ways.
One of mine always punches me every time I criticize her, which I can punch back in the shoulder without holding back, because, who cares?

[wolfgirl90]

Did I say "every girl"? No, I didn't. I said we aren't wired to be just friends...there will come a time where a friend or us will want more than friendship.

Since the majority of my friends are male, I can't argue with that on a basic level. Although, I think it depends on what "more than friendship" is. I have guy friends that are "just friends" but two who are "friends with benefits" (we all know what those "benefits" are); they are still just friends (I haven't had a serious relationship in years).

I think that its important for men and women to get beyond the "X gender is wired to do Y" excuse because its only valid in certain situations. There are guys who will want be something other than friends (or rather, want something that mere friendship can't produce), but that doesn't mean that it isn't possible for people of the opposite gender to be "just friends" with each other. Saying that either gender is simply "wired" to want more than friendship from the opposite gender is a bit degrading to both sides. We humans are beyond that; guys have the ability to control themselves and girls have the ability to control themselves.

Sure, there are guys who will want something "more" than friendship from their female friends, but I think that has a lot more to do with the fact that they are already close friends with a female, not that they are genetically "wired" to desire something more from them.

[Aulos]

I don't understand why this is even a question.

It's an obvious yes. I'm not even attracted to the opposite gender.

[illu]

Did I say "every girl"? No, I didn't. I said we aren't wired to be just friends...there will come a time where a friend or us will want more than friendship.

That being said you can still have friends of the opposite gender without resorting to a relationship. You can be attracted to someone because of certain feats, but also get turned off by other things about that same person.

[Miss Moonlight]

Sure, why not?

[Chigumi]

No. I havent had a single good friend that actually wanted to be friends only with me.
I never trust a guy that openly says 'we are the best of friends'.
Within a short amount of time they will try to touch or kiss you, unexpected.
Ive been a fool for believing that a couple of times.
Real male best friends dont annouce the status of the relationship.
And yeah, there are special cases. I have one best friend now, male.
Though he admitted later on that he met with me since he wanted me.
But we got past that and thanks to his great character he never made a scene of it.
I still meet up with him every week and its fantastic.

So yes and no. Lmao, vague. I know.

[Token Black Guy]

Yes and No.

[Mr. Panda]

No. I havent had a single good friend that actually wanted to be friends only with me.
I never trust a guy that openly says 'we are the best of friends'.
Within a short amount of time they will try to touch or kiss you, unexpected.
Ive been a fool for believing that a couple of times.
Real male best friends dont annouce the status of the relationship.
And yeah, there are special cases. I have one best friend now, male.
Though he admitted later on that he met with me since he wanted me.
But we got past that and thanks to his great character he never made a scene of it.
I still meet up with him every week and its fantastic.

So yes and no. Lmao, vague. I know.

...Yeah, thanks for swiping the rest of us guys onto one side. None of my close friends ever had the urge of touching or kissing a girl we were friends with and I'm sure I'm not alone when it comes to this. Sure, you do talk about looks, but not the whole: "Man I sure would like to bang her ". We do have some respect.

[Chigumi]

...Yeah, thanks for swiping the rest of us guys onto one side. None of my close friends ever had the urge of touching or kissing a girl we were friends with and I'm sure I'm not alone when it comes to this. Sure, you do talk about looks, but not the whole: "Man I sure would like to bang her ". We do have some respect.

I talk from my experience. I also said there are good guys. They are just rare.
And yeah... Ive met enough guys to know what an average guy is like.
I just had lots of negative experiences with males in overall.
Simply because I was kind and patient with them. They abused that all the way.
Right now... I cant be all 'sugar and spice' about it anymore.
But hey. Thats just one opinion from JUST somebody.
Dont take it too personal/seriously. They asked for an opinion, I gave it

[DenjaX]

I think this video is relevant:



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[TasteMyPoisonKiss]

yes its possible i have a few that i became friends with they n are still friends with that i am not attracted to

[Aleyna]

It's possible. Just make sure you're not sending them mixed signals, cause then you could be unintentionally leading them onto thinking that you're interested in them then more than just a friend.

[Screwby]

Yes. Since highschool I was good friends with most the girls in the boarding house without having any romantic feelings involved. Now in uni, since all my friends are ~25 years old, we always meet up with girls and guys for casual beer in a friend's house without there being weird tension in the air.

[Xeyuzio]

I think this video is relevant:



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What the fudge, you beat me to Vocaloid spam, not cool, you also could have at least posted the original PV. -throws table- And indeed it is possible, how could you even get the idea it isn't?

[Akio-sempai]

THis is a great question! I think you can be friends with the opposite sex as only friends, but its definately not going to be the same kind of relationship as it would be with the same sex. And there's definately going to be a lot of instances where they may think of each other as more than just friends. Long term relationships from my experience usually do start as friendships. Take for instance lovely clomplex. No spoiler of you haven't seen it but they started out with absolutely zero atraction and just clicked as friends turning into something more lol. But there cab definately be guy girl friendships.

The benefits! (And no not talking about those kind) you can definately get a lot of dating advice and actual work with them to be with someone you like lol again going back to lovely complex.

And I know most guys don't like to go shopping but I do especially with girls lol they can give me a lot of fashion advice and I can do the same for them lol. I like the girls point of view helps me decide what to buy and what other girls might find attractive

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[-akichan-]

First, ask yourself this question: what is your definition of friendship? And what do you value most in friendship?

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In my book, I can be friends with anyone regardless of gender.

Boys and girls can be friends. I have a lot of guy friends and I'm all fine with that.

[mrpineapple]

I've got loads of friends that are girls. Just treat them the same as your other friends :P

[Shinblue]

No....there will always be one of the 2 that will develop feelings more than just friendship. It's how we are designed to be...on a genetic level. With exception being those of a gay nature.

No. I am very close friends with a girl in my class, and I can admit that she is very pretty, but we have no sexual intentions for each other. And I'm not gay, so it has nothing to do with that.

[Jacob's Ladder]

No. I havent had a single good friend that actually wanted to be friends only with me.
I never trust a guy that openly says 'we are the best of friends'.
Within a short amount of time they will try to touch or kiss you, unexpected.
Ive been a fool for believing that a couple of times.
Real male best friends dont annouce the status of the relationship.
And yeah, there are special cases. I have one best friend now, male.
Though he admitted later on that he met with me since he wanted me.
But we got past that and thanks to his great character he never made a scene of it.
I still meet up with him every week and its fantastic.

So yes and no. Lmao, vague. I know.

Thanks for the example Chigumi. This is what I'm talking about. The fact that one party or the other will eventually want more from the "friendship" aspect is inevitable.

Ask yourselves this question, "Why am I friends with xxxxx....?" And don't say, "cuz they're a good listener." That's a cop out and you know it.

[Eris]

Just be a nice guy. This will place you slap bang in the middle of the friend zone. And you'll never get out of there, try as you might.

I've derived this piece of scientific fact from sitcoms.

[SuXrys]

Ask yourselves this question, "Why am I friends with xxxxx....?" And don't say, "cuz they're a good listener." That's a cop out and you know it.

But what if that is my answer? o_o

[Jacob's Ladder]

But what if that is my answer? o_o

You make my head hurt....