Passive Aggresiveness

[44NekoStarr66]

How the heck do you deal with people who are passive aggressive?

[SigmaSD]

Well what exactly is passive aggressive? You know, for those of us who aren't familiar with the term.

[44NekoStarr66]

Taken from Wikipedia:
Passive- Aggressive Symptoms/ Signs
Ambiguity or speaking cryptically: a means of engendering a feeling of insecurity in others
Chronically being late and forgetting things: another way to exert control or to punish.
Fear of competition
Fear of dependency
Fear of intimacy as a means to act out anger: The passive aggressive often cannot trust. Because of this, they guard themselves against becoming intimately attached to someone.
Making chaotic situations
Making excuses for non-performance in work teams
Obstructionism
Procrastination
Sulking
Victimization response: instead of recognizing one's own weaknesses, tendency to blame others for own failures.

Basically that...:/ one of my good friends does these things often and sometimes they explode all their emotions at one time instead of coming out in little intervals

[Nanobyte]

I hate that word... Ambiguity... xD

I ignore passive agressive people, and I know QUITE a few.

[SigmaSD]

Well if its a serious problem then I tell them to go to a psychiatrist.

If its every once in a while it depends on the situation. If I know they're being immature, I tell them to get real and stop whining. Do something about it first and if nothing can be done then complain. Cause more often then not its because of their lack of action that things happen.

But if it is something that is hard to deal with, I wait for them to finish and then I begin giving my two cents of their situation, a way to remedy the situation, or how to better handle it.

Does this friend of yours do it often? Cause it may be signs of a chronic mental illness.

[Capitán]

Procrastination?!

Dang I must be Passive Aggressive holmes.

[brolyx74]

You kick them in the face with your power legs.

[blueangel06661]

There is a kid in my stage craft class who is passive aggressive. Though he was brought up in a poor way. And the teacher didn't want him in her Advanced Drama classes so the allowed him to come in the hands on stage craft class -__- what a big mistake.

He never does anything and always reads a book even though the teacher kindly tells him he needs to pay attention. All the teachers let him do what he wants because of his condition but if he keeps it up and continues being a spoiled brat I'm going to hand it to him passive aggressive or not. I don't care if you snap at me but you're going to do the work like everyone else or go sit in detention for 2nd period the rest of the year.

I'm really fond of my stage craft class and last year everyone took it seriously and did things and this year everyones taking it seriously and doing things but not him. Plus I worry he's going to break some of our equipment.

And I eat lunch with him because the people I hang out with also pity him. I'm going to smack him silly one day if he doesn't quit hitting the table.

[3pleT]

Simple:
When someone "asks" you for a favor in a passive-aggressive manner, you just play dumb until they ask you directly.
When someone criticizes you in a passive-aggressive manner, you just play dumb and ask for clarification.
When someone is always unreliable, you become unreliable about something that actually matters to them. If they complain, just say "this is how I felt".
When someone plays the victim, you laugh in their face and make fun of them.
When a passive-aggressive person pretends to be offended, ignore them and don't call them again before they call you. If they don't, you can't change them.

Also, get your friends to do as Serbs do: make fun of passive-aggressive people and other people with similar personality disorders.

[Furore]

I just tell them to stop being emo.
It either works (somewhat, especially when there are other people around and they want to save face) or has them shrieking which can be kind of funny in a way. (Yes, I know, I am a bad person).
If they keep it up I don't hang around them and if they follow me around, I warn them that they're invading my personal space which I'm seeing as aggression which legally gives me the right to defend myself. That one always works my fellow Australians!

[Miss Moonlight]

The same way they deal with me, passively.

[44NekoStarr66]

Well my friend sits around and wallows in their self pity and blames other people for things, they also see that everyone automatically is a screw up and they will screw up his mood and his life. It's kind of annoying since his cousin is the same way, except she's a tad bit worse. I mean I enjoy hanging out with both of them when they're not being this way but it's getting to the point where it's going to end up causing stress on my end dealing with an attitude like that :/

today i ignored both of them in class and they extremely got in my face and challenged me since I was half asleep i just sorta stared and drooled at bit (which was gross)...but when I was fully awake later I realized what they did and it pissed me off.

i will perhaps use some of the suggestions posted here cause I'm running out of bloody patience