Well then, if this was true then your sweeping generalizations about men's "testicular attentiveness" and the superiority of homosexuals as pets are then NOT your opinion I'm assuming. Hrm.
Answer this though: Outside of the internet, how many straight women are willing to "get to know before-hand" a guy they are acquainted with who approaches them for a date or their phone number if they're not dazzlingly attractive? A date or phone number does not necessarily equate to "I want to have sex with you immediately please disrobe and assume the position," it CAN mean, shocker of shockers, "From my prior dealings with you I find I am interested in you and wish to initiate courtship."To some people, if they are attracted to someone because of the way that they act then it will not necessarily matter to them what the person looks like physically. It is just a case of getting to know that person before-hand and without continuesly thinking that they are only talking to this individual to get into their bed. Some people will only talk to members of the opposite sex if they are good looking, but thatt is just how it is.
However, many a "nice guy" who does this has been accused of "being creepy" after this, because he's not physically attractive to the woman. I'm not saying looks should be disregarded by either gender, that'd just be stupid, but pretending that it's only all men(aside from a token few to escape any accusations of sexism) or shallow women that are driven by their reproductive organs is even stupider.
Let's take that a step or two further.I cannot help but think that I must be extra careful when typing in this thread.
I want everyone, myself included because I am not immune to this, to go out right now and get the above quoted sentence mounted on a plaque, written on a piece of paper, anything, and place it above wherever their computer is. Look up at it every time you decide to reply to any thread, ever.
That is my contribution towards making AF a better place.
EDIT: Before I go and get bunched in with the category of people who believe, as Minako so elegantly put it, that people go around saying "hi I'm totally unavailable but you look like someone I could have wonderful platonic conversations with, can I have your number," I'd just like to throw the definition of "courtship" out there:
So basically, yes everyone plans on having sex as a matter of course, but it isn't necessarily the first and foremost objective in their conscious mind. There's things like romance, trust and compatibility that can be factors before considering having sex with a person. To oversimplify it by saying "All it is is sex, that's the only reason a man approaches a woman with his number or asking for hers" seems wrong to me, but your mileage may vary I suppose.Originally Posted by Google define:courtship
As for the "Well there are exceptions" being tacked to the end of everything in an event to spare feelings, there ARE exceptions, but they're mostly brought about by emotional trauma or some other set of circumstances unique to the individual. For instance, some people aren't comfortable with sex(either physically or even just the thought of it) and value a person more for the other parts of the relationship. They may have sex because they feel it's something they're supposed to do but not actually want to, or they might not even want to have sex at all. Not everyone's sex drive is that of a hormone-addled teenager, and in some cases it can be so low it's practically nonexistent.
However, I feel I should remind everyone that my argument was NOT that these few and proportionally-speaking rare exceptions were commonplace. My argument was that sex isn't the only thing ever on the minds of men to the exclusion of all else, nor are women chaste and innocent beings with the purest of thoughts unless they happen to be pretty in which case they MIGHT think about finding an attractive male to hold hands with, the scandalous wench! Still, there's more to finding love than sex, and it'd do some of you youngsters well to remember that. Now get off my lawn. *waves cane menacingly*
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