Is this messed up or what?

[Atrumrox]

Ok... i am a little mad at everyone in my school at the moment. You see, there's this kid called Corrina, she has some problem with her jaw so that it hangs open and she is a little slow with speech. No one will talk to her! No one will even TRY to talk to her! She is super nice though, one of the nicest people i've ever met. Still, i think i am seriously her only friend. I'm not sure if she notices but its not right the way people treat her like she's a disease and avoid her. I am trying to tell them that there's nothing wrong with her other than her jaw and that she's and AWSOME friend but no success. Any suggestions? I know it seems like an immature problem you'd find on a kintergarden show but still...

[Beast]

Sadly, those kind of things are hard to fix. Perhaps you could show everyone how nice this "Corrina" is and MAYBE they will lighten their social opinion of her.

[Morris]

To put it simply, I wouldn't bother.. these classmates to put it quite frankly do not deserve the chance to be her friend. I see from your post you judge her quite highly which leads me to believe she is a nice, kind and helpful person.. a friend people should want to have, but you can't change peoples minds I'm afraid. All I can say is just carry on, ignore the rest of the them and be happy in the fact you have a valuable friend

[Atrumrox]

To put it simply, I wouldn't bother.. these classmates to put it quite frankly do not deserve the chance to be her friend. I see from your post you judge her quite highly which leads me to believe she is a nice, kind and helpful person.. a friend people should want to have, but you can't change peoples minds I'm afraid. All I can say is just carry on, ignore the rest of the them and be happy in the fact you have a valuable friend

Sadly i believe you are right...

[Nephthys]

well, it does sound like she is a nice girl, and that it would be really nice to be friends with her. However, what the others do at school is exacly what society has taught us to do. A guy in a wheel chair *everyone look down it's rude to stare* A woman walking funny because of a back problem *look away* You know Im really not sure exacly why people do this but the majority of people do. Humankind fears things they do not understand. I honestly don't think that they don't talk to her just to be mean, but you can't change people's behaviors overnight. The only thing that you can do is make an example by being her friend, and sadly this may not even work. but I'm sure that she is happy having a friend like you.

[SuXrys]

More sadly I think that you should bother. Maybe she feels bad about all this but doesnt want to edmit it to anybody else. and even if it is a "immature problem" its sadly that some just some ppl never grows up. I would continiue to tell them that they are wrong - cause they are!

'Im getting so angry when I read this kind of things. I had the similar problem aswell. Some years ago when I went to another school we got a new classmate (not a very pretty one but I never judge ppls inside after the outside) but sadly some did. She poorly had the chance to say her name until I heard some girls behind me whisper to eachother "we wont be with her, (she is ugly)". Its so mezzed up wrong!

I too indead thought that I was her only friend until she moved away with her family to another town. I NEVER judgy ppl after a persons looks.
Its so wrong, and I told the others my opinion about the matter.
But they didnt hang out with her anyway, so I was with her the times I wasnt with the others. She was never around when I was with the other girls/boys in the class and I can understand that.

Some people can be so horrible to others, even for some strange reason.
grow up!

[Thingle]

You have the right to judge her actually.

[♥Ichigo♥]

well your classmates are a bunch of messed up *ahem*'s. mine are the same, there is a guy in our class who is deaf, and nobody trys to talk to him, in fact, they take the mickey right to his face! i mean, he can lip read, and he has hearing aids!

[SuXrys]

You have the right to judge her actually.

ofc ppl can judge, but not at the cost of never talking to them at all.
Talk first and see if u like that person, if you do - keep talking. If you notice after a while (not 3 sec, after some times so you get the chance to find out who this fellow is) then hey- you have tried. That means you dont have to be with them allways but I dont like ppl who freeze out others like that, special if they never have talked to the person, just by looking at him/her.

One of my best friends today I would never meet if I had judged like some do. Talk, smile, try to get to know ém, then you can judgy if u want and desire...

[Nephthys]

ofc ppl can judge, but not at the cost of never talking to them at all.
Talk first and see if u like that person, if you do - keep talking. If you notice after a while (not 3 sec, after some times so you get the chance to find out who this fellow is) then hey- you have tried. That means you dont have to be with them allways but I dont like ppl who freeze out others like that, special if they never have talked to the person, just by looking at him/her.

One of my best friends today I would never meet if I had judged like some do. Talk, smile, try to get to know ém, then you can judgy if u want and desire...

actually people can judge even if they have never talked to them at all, yada yada free will, all that. It dosnt make it right but what are your gonna do? peoples opinions change After they have taken the time to get to know the person.

[Thingle]

ofc ppl can judge, but not at the cost of never talking to them at all.
Talk first and see if u like that person, if you do - keep talking. If you notice after a while (not 3 sec, after some times so you get the chance to find out who this fellow is) then hey- you have tried. That means you dont have to be with them allways but I dont like ppl who freeze out others like that, special if they never have talked to the person, just by looking at him/her.

One of my best friends today I would never meet if I had judged like some do. Talk, smile, try to get to know ém, then you can judgy if u want and desire...

I meant pre-judge based on profiling.

[Rebellion]

Atrumrox, first of all I'd like to say that I'm proud of you for being her friend. Walking in when everyone else walks out certainly isn't an easy thing to do.

Second, I don't think you should worry too much. Just continue to be there for her. Think of it as their own loss for not accepting someone as good as her. You want true friends, not forced ones.

[Overlord Darth Fluffles]

Society has a issue with "Different" any obvious signs of it you'll most likely be avoided unless one of the more polite people who have a oepn mind come in and say hi. If they don't listen the first time label them inferior and just hang out with this girl. I would. Have a blast together, date, do whatever, just have fun.

[Capernicus]

Sadly, those kind of things are hard to fix. Perhaps you could show everyone how nice this "Corrina" is and MAYBE they will lighten their social opinion of her.

Why did you put her name in quotation marks? Do you mean to imply that that may not be her name? o.O

Well Atrumrox (sp? too lazy to look), your post was very chatty and sounded more like it should be in yo' blog, but I'll give you an answer.

Having lots of friends is overrated. I would rather have 1 true friend than 10 casual acquaintances (ie people who think I'm nice and talk with me between classes).

[Balance]

You know, there are things called Blogs where you can post all of your feelings and have other people comment there. I don't really think it's absolutely necessary to post it in the Miscellaneous Board. I can understand your anger though.

What I have to say about it is that just don't worry about it. As sad and frustrating it is, that's the way most people are going to be. It's not like our words and us complaining will change anything at all. So just continue being her friend. At least you know you aren't like that right?

[dragon_nataku]

The sad fact is that most people are incredibly shallow. Also, people fear what they don't understand, and they hate what they fear. This is not always done on a conscious level, but that's the way things go.

Personally, I never judge anybody over stupid things like that. I judge people more by their actions... and thus have come to the conclusion that most people are stupid. Like the people at your school. Someday maybe you'll learn that stupid people are not worth your time, and you'll enjoy your friends more for being something other than complete idiots.

[International 4-8818]

It's school. That happens. It's part of life. The best advice is to ignore it and be who you are.

[KuroTan]

I think you really shouln't be bothered about this. If people don't want to talk to her then don't force them. At least she has you as a friend. There's really no need for a dozen more.

And a question that I'm sure most will find a bit off but I wanted to clarify, you highlighted in your post that she has this thing with her jaw and then jumped to "No one talks to her". Is it really because of this or, you never know, it might not be connected at all. I mean, maybe there's something about her that really makes people not talk to her? I'm not saying she can't be awesome, it's just that that's your opinion.

[Atrumrox]

I think you really shouln't be bothered about this. If people don't want to talk to her then don't force them. At least she has you as a friend. There's really no need for a dozen more.

And a question that I'm sure most will find a bit off but I wanted to clarify, you highlighted in your post that she has this thing with her jaw and then jumped to "No one talks to her". Is it really because of this or, you never know, it might not be connected at all. I mean, maybe there's something about her that really makes people not talk to her? I'm not saying she can't be awesome, it's just that that's your opinion.

My point is that they didnt talk to her at all to HAVE another reason not to talk to her. No one knows her at all! And as to the ignore the other people thing i would. If it were me i could care less. I guess i just worry that other people arent strong like that... I am worried alot that someone will hurt her because i do care how she's feeling. And if i put this post into a blog then not NEARLY as many people would read and comment... Almost no one looks at blogs it seems like... Thank you all for commenting though and yes i know its never going to change. When i get angry or enthusiastic about something i dont quite think it through and maybe i shouldnt care soo much what other people think but that's my immaturity for you i guess.

Well, I suppose now my greatest hope for this post will be to stop a few other people from judging next time. Sucryx (Sorry if i spelled it wrong) I'm glad you were friends with that "Ugly" girl too. Keep going.

[zellk]

Just keep doing what your doing and try to let others see how wonderful corrina is! Keep being corrina's friend and it may pay off someday! After it will leave you with a nice feeling. Ahhh its awsome to be nice!

[Acnologia]

People are shallow; If theres someone in the least bit different than others will avoid them.
You don't need to convince them of anything, its their fault for being such morons that they can't see her for who she is.

[Reniti]

Unfortunately, you couldn't do anything if you tried. People at your school sound like they are overly judgemental or looks, and probably wear Hollister at home.

*cough* I'm being immature... But I'm sorry, I don't think you'd be able to change people's opinion. =( They sound like ___-wipes, don't deserve to get to know a very nice girl, based on what you posted. Sorry...

[-akichan-]

I know it seems like an immature problem you'd find on a kintergarden show but still...

First, if you would post it, you shouldn't think this is an immature problem that people would find it stupid cos this is like an apology of doing this but you are still doing it.

Anyway, i've met a lot of people in my life that acts very similar to those rude people around you. They tend to avoid the people who has physical problems like having trouble walking, speaking, unequal five-senses and such...It's normal that you find these people giving prejudice to people like that Corrina. If you really care about that girl's reputation, you would be initiative and would do your best to tell those people off to stop doing stupid actions, otherwise there's really nothing you can do about it but to be her close friend.

If i were you, even if Corrina isn't my friend, i would still stand up for her because i seriously hate those kind of people to give prejudice to others especially for those who really need support.

[Jose]

First, if you would post it, you shouldn't think this is an immature problem that people would find it stupid cos this is like an apology of doing this but you are still doing it.

Anyway, i've met a lot of people in my life that acts very similar to those rude people around you. They tend to avoid the people who has physical problems like having trouble walking, speaking, unequal five-senses and such...It's normal that you find these people giving prejudice to people like that Corrina. If you really care about that girl's reputation, you would be initiative and would do your best to tell those people off to stop doing stupid actions, otherwise there's really nothing you can do about it but to be her close friend.

If i were you, even if Corrina isn't my friend, i would still stand up for her because i seriously hate those kind of people to give prejudice to others especially for those who really need support.

yes agreed

Because it just is not right that some with be segregated from the rest of the school population just because of physical diff. to other people of the school any i also would not want to be friends with anyone tha would shun someone because of their physical appearance, i dont think that she should let anyone of the other student bring her down and they really should be ashamed for the way that they are acting either way i'm pround that she at least has you so to anwser you question "is this messed up or what?" yes it us very messed up however that is the way that most people act

[Sanosuke23]

I hate to point this out, but by pressing the issue you not only further alienate her by annoying who you're trying to convince, but you run the risk of making her feel bad about herself because some altruistic "normal" kid is deeming her a charity case. Road, Hell, good intentions, paved, etc.

Just be her friend, who cares about other people?