Thoughts?
Loneliness due to social networking and false relationships:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c6Bkr_udado#t=253
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Thoughts?
Loneliness due to social networking and false relationships:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c6Bkr_udado#t=253
I have a hard time believing that. If anything it's just making communication and socialization easier
i wouldn't know, i don't use social media. my opinion on it is it's a desolate wasteland of stupid meme regurgitation and inane hashtag jokes. if i wanna talk to someone i'll call or text them, or speak face to face.
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Originally Posted by horrendous
My brain is just fine, thank you. The only thing I go on, really, is Facebook.
see, @Ugly.Ted knows what's up
I just go outside a get to know people that way its more fun
Obviously. But its hella convenient to just hit someone up on facebook. i dont use twitter or instagram or any of that shit thoQuote:
Originally Posted by Toshiro Tazukura
I think the fundamental underpinnings of the statistical increases in loneliness were set up by the baby boomers and the trends started well before social networks, which have only been around for about a decade.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mami Melody
I'm not sure if social networking, forums, chat etc help or hurt with loneliness. I suspect it rather depends on what someone needs and how they use various services. But any study would have to consider that behind all this are drivers of increasing loneliness as families get increasingly smaller, people move around more, and social institutions fold up, all independent of the net.
[QUOTE=Space Cowboy 2112;2804022]Obviously. But its hella convenient to just hit someone up on facebook. i dont use twitter or instagram or any of that shit tho[/
Its convenient using a face book but, its boring
/lives in Tumblr
Social Networking hasn't ruined my life on bit. I have things outside the internet I do, and I mainly use social networking to keep tabs with friends and family.
Mind if I borrow that opinion of yours?Quote:
Originally Posted by horrendous
For me personally, I'm not obsessed with social media. I suppose that's one of the reasons why my life hasn't been ruined by it. I know the vast majority of Facebook friends are just acquaintances. However, social media has allowed me to conduct a few business transactions with some old classmates (like craigslist), so I'm thankful for that. I'm lonely because I honestly have no real friends in reality. I also tend to keep to myself anyways. My best friend is loneliness itself.
Social media online is essentially the evolution of the web, it is now often referred to as Web 2.0 which basically means that the web is now being used for social interactions and for the general user to upload and create their own custom content upon it whether that be a blog, vlog, avatar or any other content.
Previously the web was used just simply for the download of files created by certain people usually academics or specialists. The fact that the web is now used for social media is not a bad thing for this one reason in my opinion. It allows vast amounts of people to communicate to each other within a matter of seconds it is true that it has it's flaws but overall it is significantly improved the way we live our lives.
Prensky's view is that people born after 1980 are essentially a 'digital native' which is someone who is only known a world filled with technology. Although this is true to a certain degree it's important to remember that despite the existence of this technology today not everyone could be classed as a native because not everyone has access to the web or a computer of some description.
The term also kinda gives the impression that the world of the web is some kind of colonial empire. This is why I am against the use of that terminology but it does give us some explanations as to how people react to social networking.
The main thing I use Facebook for (only social medium I use) is to arrange group projects for school or b-day parties as you can get everyone you want in a group or convo.
As for it possibly ruining or brains, I'm not so sure. The main people who's brains will be ruined are those who really see facebook as something you need to have status on, those who compare 'the likes their crap receives' as their social status. As long as you keep in mind that 99% people post on there is crap and that they only show their best and most likeable sides of themselves you'll be fine. People aren't the same in real life as they are on Facebook in my opinion.
I move and travel around a lot because of work. So I need facebook.
Good thoughts, all! Thanks so much!
Hideki, you've been making me sad today! You poor thing! <3Quote:
Originally Posted by Hideki Motosuwa.
I'm more concerned about Facebook et al making everyone stupider and more gullible.
I don't use social network that often, though I do have an facebook profile, but I mostly use it to look at pictures, or keep taps on my family. I do agree with the video to some extent, the internet does allow us to shape us to whoever we want to be. At this very moment each and everyone of us could be lying, trying to be someone who we are not, though I tend to blindly trust in people till I'm proven wrong and sometimes I'm wrong, but still I want to believe.
I do know loneliness quite well, and I dare say I've come to a point in life where I simply cannot do without it. For a few months now I've been living with some people at a rehab facility, and before I had my own place living each and everyday on my own, some days it were magnificent being able to do what I wanted, and not someone there to tell me otherwise, but some days I also missed the presence of others. I have only had a few but very good friends in life before I moved away, that is, and I got a taste of being on my own for real, and for many years that is what I prefered, but now? Hmm, I think if I can create a balance between social life and being alone, it would be worth while.
You don't have to feel sad for me, but thank you. All of this is my own fault anyways. I guess I'm just different from everyone else.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mami Melody
I don't know about "stupider" but I think it's probably making people less gullible. It might depend on the circle of people, but I've been dropping snopes on the stuff some people in my network forward/share/comment on long enough some are learning. So I think they're now less gullible. Also you hear about scams more. I think the newer generations will be much less likely to fall for the guy-pretending-to-be-a-hot-chick thing than previously.Quote:
Originally Posted by Haoie
I think we're getting more skeptical, and while on forums I generally just treat people as they present themselves (because why not), a part of me always thinks things like " @Hideki Motosuwa is just pretending to be a Hikikomori," even though I can't think of a particular reason to do that.
I bet you could find quite a few people feeling the same way as you do, if that is what you want, ofcourse.Quote:
Originally Posted by Hideki Motosuwa.
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Maybe we should also keep in mind that some people using the social network who pretends to be someone else, or atleast only gives out their best sides is because they really do not wanna get in contact with their "inner-self" afterall everyone is flawed, or because they believe by doing so would make others reject them, even if they would not, but it all differs from person to person, I suppose. It is like putting on a facade because you are afraid of showing who you really are, and that might be what they're doing both on the web and in reality. Well, that was just a thought.
What is a thought compared to action? Just a simple thought
As long as you focus on the screen, maybe a book, or something else that drives your attention loneliness is rarely felt. But try shutting it off, and just sit still on your own. See what it brings you. Maybe in the beginning your head would just stream thoughts, but after awhile you should feel a rumble, or maybe not :)
i think that's the reason i dislike social media, i don't have any irl friends anyway and all the ones i used to have were a long time ago. i've made a facebook page since then and all my old friends added and greeted me, but i was so neurotic i thought there's no way they'd still wanna be friends after so long so i just deleted it.Quote:
Originally Posted by Hideki Motosuwa.
i don't think my brain is wired correctly to use social media. the key word in that phrase is "social", which i'm not. i always feel like i'm on the outside looking in on other people's lives, even when they try to include me. my girlfriend wants me to make a new page and get in touch with all my old friends, which might be healthy but i've created and deleted a facebook page twice already. i'm not nearly as antisocial as i used to be though so it might work this time.
anyway, Hideki, i used to be in your shoes in the loneliness situation. part of my problem was living in a hostile environment which made me even more stand-offish. it took me moving out of that place to really change my outlook on life, now i'm much more open and friendly in person, even with complete strangers. that change in environment is the only thing that's allowing me to hold down a job, as i've lost one before due to panic attacks at work.
how's your home life?
I don't believe I'm pretending. However with me, I don't think it's THAT extreme. I have a friend who occasionally asks me to hang out, and I do sometimes. I don't spend all my free time at home. It's just the cold that keeps me indoors a lot.Quote:
Originally Posted by sunnyside
I'm up for meeting any type of person. If I meet people with similar feelings, and situation, we can help each other as well by forming a support group of some sort.Quote:
Originally Posted by Riverflower
That sucks man, sorry to hear that. The small city I live in is very limited and that's depressing for a young guy wanting to do anything. Honestly, I still live with my parents (who are very worried about me), I'm still looking for a job (haven't had one in 3 years) and I don't have any real world skills. I did go to college, but not for long. Once I get a job and more experience, I'll feel better. When I have the money, I am out of this city.Quote:
Originally Posted by horrendous