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Re: What turns you off in a guy/girl?
An ugly personality really turns me off. It's not entirely easy to describe what I mean with this. I'll give some examples.
People who are cruel. Not to me in particular, but to anyone. Nobody likes a jerk.
People who are constantly bitter and cynical. Not attractive one bit.
People who think it's okay to be ignorant.
People who justify their weaknesses as personality traits. No, you do not have frail nerves, you have a phobia and you're using your "frail nerves" to chicken out of dealing with it. Grow some balls and man the hell up.
People who lie and try to get off on semantics rather than apologizing when the truth comes out.
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umm.... I'd have to say when a guy can't stop talking about himself and when they break-up with you they do it over a text message or e-mail. yes these are most likely the most common turn-offs but they the most cruelist ,well thats what I think at least
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Seung-li
-If I can't last even 20 minutes with you in a conversation, turn off.
-Poor hygiene you have to be clean in and out, this is followed by smoking and drinking.
-Don't make me do things that I don't want to do.
-Narcissistic men irritate me, why can't you be humble about yourself?
-Racist, disrespectful, and very mean to my family and friends.
-Being blamed for something I can't help over.
-Dishonest.
-Emotionally and physically abusive.
I have a longer list.
Right right right . and Asshole and Bitches
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Biggest turn on: coloured hair
Biggest turn off: smokers
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Aleyna
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When they don't want to dance, can't dance, or have a horrible music taste. That's usually a deal breaker for me.
Alot of girls like to dance. I better start learning or else risk being dumped the first day. Lol.
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Aleyna
When they don't want to dance, can't dance, or have a horrible music taste. That's usually a deal breaker for me.
I read this thread on a whim, but this made me curious.
What exactly do you mean by dancing?
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a list of doom again.. -snif-
Being too serious (I understand if you can't help but look serious, and be serious at times, but not 25 hours a day 9 times a week [Nyahaha..])
Being disgusting (I mean disgusting as in sexually disgusting, as in 80% of your thoughts are "sex sex sex seeeeex lets do iiit!" orz)
Being out there (I don't like extremely loud people.. I don't mind if your loud, but not.. over the top..)
Smokers.. (...)
Drinkers (I understand .. once in 3 years or something, but.. not all time, its annoying to deal with a drunk.. orz)
dunno what else..
xDD its hard to really say..
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What ever qualities my second roommate has...
I don't see how he manages to "get some" from girls he barely knows but he does [in the end they go as far as blocking him and hating his guts later]
He's not bad... Buuuuut.... He's really hard to explain..... Either way he turns me off like no tomorrow and I'm not sure why.. I really don't even view him as a guy that's how bad he is... He's just a breathing being that requires me to take him to work sometimes.
Another one is smoking. I hate smoking since I think I'm affected by second hand smoke from my mom and my grandfather and I will not kiss another smoker.
If you do not play video games... [lol odd quirk but if you don't play, I don't play with you]
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mrpineapple
Biggest turn on: coloured hair
Biggest turn off: smokers
you're easily pleased! I colour my hair red and have never smoked. Wanna get married?
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Originally Posted by
Eris
An ugly personality really turns me off. It's not entirely easy to describe what I mean with this. I'll give some examples.
People who justify their weaknesses as personality traits. No, you do not have frail nerves, you have a phobia and you're using your "frail nerves" to chicken out of dealing with it. Grow some balls and man the hell up.
This one intrigues me. Can you explain a bit better? Or give an example?
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I dont like girls who smoke, i hate heavy drinkers, not a fan of gobby people (this applies to loud people). Ummm i dont like people who think you can solve all there problems (i like being relied on but i cant solve everything), ummm people who think there good looking-nothing wrong with a good view of yourself but being bigheaded is lame, people who think there better than you (they might be but c'mom), Religious people (i dont appose them but i dislike religion), someone who tries to change you from who you are, someone who only likes you for your looks or alterier motives (cash ect) it should be they like you for you.
I dont consider myself picky considering my list is long, this traits shouldnt be all to common in most women who want to be serious so i dont consider it picky (but i guess some might say i am :D)
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I dont like fake girls who gossip, i dont like selfish girls, and most important; she needs to make a meeeeeean sandwitch! :P
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I actually have a lot of turn ons and turn offs, but I was just listing some general things that turn me off instantly when I first go on a date with a guy.
@sunnyside : I want to be with a guy that enjoys dancing even if he dances differently than me or sucks at dancing.
He has to want to go out dancing with me, because we will be going out dancing frequently.
He can't go dance with me, only because I want to go dance.
He has to want to dance too, because he enjoys dancing.
It's totally fine if he dances differently or he sucks at dancing, but if he doesn't like going out dancing, it's not going to work.
Also, the guy should have a similar music taste to me.
If he mainly only listens to rock music, he's automatically friend zoned usually, because I honestly find rock music not dance-able at all.
I don't want to go out and dance to rock music frequently, because I don't find it fun to dance to at all typically.
Ohhh, I'm sorry if I seem totally judgmental towards a person's music taste, but in general, I don't mind what kind of music a person listens to.
It's just when it comes to searching for someone to be in a relationship with, they have to have a similar music taste to me.
I won't stop talking to you just because your music taste is different from me.
It's just I really love music a lot, and I tend to connect to people the best through music.
Chances are the more we have in common with music, the more I will talk and get along with you.
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Jasanime
you're easily pleased! I colour my hair red and have never smoked. Wanna get married?[COLOR="Silver"]
sounds like a plan, i'm up for it :L
It's good not to have big haves and havenots :)
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mrpineapple
sounds like a plan, i'm up for it :L
It's good not to have big haves and havenots :)
Gotta say an Irish accent is quite a turn on. I might be considered quite the cradle snatcher though. LOL.
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-Dirty people.
-Saying sexist joke, whether it's male or female.
-Physical abuse is a no no unless you're getting kinky.
-People that never shut up.
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Smoking and drinking. Any smoking is an automatic turn-off for me, drinking itself is also an turn-off. However, I could probably tolerate occasional casual drinking. Getting drunk and trying to get me to drink I can not.
Also being religious. I suppose I could tolerate somebody who was just a casual moderate/liberal believer and wouldn't try to convince me to believe or go to church. Beyond that we'd have issues, major issues. Beyond that I don't think we'd be dating to begin with, though. =P Although, I've never dated any believers before.
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I posted already, but I also want to say I don't really like girls that curse alot.
Where im from, girls that like to curse every 10 seconds are prevalent.
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Jasanime
Gotta say an Irish accent is quite a turn on. I might be considered quite the cradle snatcher though. LOL.
the Auzzie accent is pretty cool too!
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Aleyna
I want to be with a guy that enjoys dancing even if he dances differently than me or sucks at dancing.
He has to want to go out dancing with me, because we will be going out dancing frequently.
He can't go dance with me, only because I want to go dance.
He has to want to dance too, because he enjoys dancing.
It's totally fine if he dances differently or he sucks at dancing, but if he doesn't like going out dancing, it's not going to work.
I guess what I meant was what did you mean by dancing.
The standard club grind isn't exactly so demanding. So I was wondering if you meant you want him to be able to take you out and swing, slasa, line dance, or something like that.
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I don't like girls who are dumb, boring, or just have an overall awful personality. I like to be able to have a conversation with you and enjoy your company. If that doesn't happen than you're out the window to me. Sense of humor is a big thing to me too; I seriously can stand girls who don't get jokes, or just aren't very funny. And they have to be fun too; boring girls are...boring.
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sunnyside
I guess what I meant was what did you mean by dancing.
The standard club grind isn't exactly so demanding. So I was wondering if you meant you want him to be able to take you out and swing, slasa, line dance, or something like that.
Ohhh! I don't mind grinding, but I don't like it when a guy comes up and starts grinding on me who I don't know.
A guy should approach a girl by going up and dancing in front of her to get them to dance together, greet himself to her and ask her name, then tell his name and ask how she is doing, and tell her she looks pretty or say that she's good at dancing.
Guys that usually automatically start grinding up on me from behind without even talking to me give me the impression that they only want to do stuff with me, so they instantly lose a chance to be with me.
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Cheesybiotic Cake
I posted already, but I also want to say I don't really like girls that curse alot.
Where im from, girls that like to curse every 10 seconds are prevalent.
So true. Even my little sister curses more often than me... and of a higher intensity...! >=O
What's with teenagers today, I wonder... >~>
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I have to say, that a thing, that turns me off in a guy is him being gay. Not like I'm against homosexual ppl, just there's no way we could be. This mechanism clicks inside my head and suddenly a guy is not attractive anymore
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Kiss of Death
I have to say, that a thing, that turns me off in a guy is him being gay. Not like I'm against homosexual ppl, just there's no way we could be. This mechanism clicks inside my head and suddenly a guy is not attractive anymore
I'm pretty sure that feeling is a mutual feeling.
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Let's see...
-Smoking too much: Most of my family and some of my friends smoke, so I have (somewhat) of a tolerance for it, so it's not an automatic turn-off. However, I can't stand to be around smokers for too long (no matter who they are), so if a guy is a pack-a-day smoker, then no sale.
-Poor hygiene: Kinda related to the above. There's one guy friend (with benefits :wink:) that I have and I didn't know that he smoked until I went to his house...and I had known him for a year. He always looked clean and smelled clean, so I didn't care that he smoked. But if a guy is running around in rags smelling like a foggy garbage dump, then we are going to have a problem.
-Emotional immaturity: We all have crap in our lives, but there is a way to deal with it. Constantly hearing a guy whine over the tiniest mishap is frustrating.
-Being a sexist pig: The second a guy says that should keep my mouth shut or that it is my "job" to make him a "sammich" is the second that he is going to find a few valuable appendages missing.
-Being an idiot: Self-explanatory.
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Aleyna
When they aren't affectionate, that really sucks. I want you to tell me that you love me, hold my hand, wraps your arms around my waist, and give me little pecks on the cheeks and lips when we're together whether it's behind closed doors or in public. I want to see that I truly make you feel happy and in love.
I work on the opposite spectrum. I'm not the lovey-dovey romantic type, so certain displays of affection are lost on me (it actually annoys me when it happens too often). In fact, the stuff that happens behind "closed doors" is of more importance to me.:wink:
Not saying that being affectionate is a bad thing; just making a comparison.