Is it weird that I'm a guy and I'm crying to anime?

[BrockDecoy]

Like I always cried to some parts on Sailor Moon, Eden of the East & the Girl Who Leapt Through Time, I feel like a complete wuss & less of a man when I do but for some reason I feel what the characters feel at the exact moments in the shows and then my eyes start weeping & watering, I get very weak & then I cry.

I feel like a joke just for mentioning this now lol

[ilovepuppies32]

Yes

[Jasanime]

I think the only thing that makes you less of a man - is THINKING that crying makes you less of a man. Hope that makes sense. My bf cries in tv and movies as much as I do. It just means you're sensitive and caring, which in my books is a good thing.

BTW - have you seen Clannad? If that doesn't make you cry there is something wrong with you!

[Road]

I get tearjerked and get so moved i cry, at the end of Angel Beats and a few others even just the thought that such a good anime is now over and that there will be no more has brought me to tears.

[ilovepuppies32]

I get tearjerked and get so moved i cry, at the end of Angel Beats and a few others even just the thought that such a good anime is now over and that there will be no more has brought me to tears.

Sorry I just can't picture crying over cartoons.

[blueangel06661]

Sorry I just can't picture crying over cartoons.

It's not the picture, it's the story those pictures create.

[ilovepuppies32]

It's not the picture, it's the story those pictures create.

I don't like crying in movies either.

[Princess Cupcake]

That's silly. It shouldn't matter if you're a boy or girl crying to anime. If it makes you sad, it makes you sad.

[Hakoshi]

Crying is for the weak! -obviously I'm kidding...-

anywho, don't see anything wrong with that, its actually nice to see a guy cry over the story of something ... since, it means the anime/story did its job right, which was convey its feelings to the audience
as for Clannad, I cried because, I was thinking of everyones emotions and it just got to me..

If you watched Angel Beats! ending, well semi ending.. I was not ready!! xD
anywho, nah its fine,
now if you don't cry your either..
A. Un-emotional
B. Had no clue what was going on
xDD

[Xeyuzio]

To answer in short: no.

[Arrisu]

Men who can cry gain respect in my books. It shows that they're emotionally connected to others. :3

[Cantelope]

Literary analysis has ruined my ability to cry to sub-par plot developments (e.g. the vast majority of anime).

Does it make you any less of a man? ...well, on the upside I haven't read any studies that link crying to spontaneous sex reassignment.

[Rozenberg]

well, there's a saying "Men can only cry when a member of their family die"

[Explorer Oak]

I'm a verry sensitive person, i can be emotionaly moved to tears and that doesn't make me, or anybody else any less of a person. I don't care what anybody says i'm confident in myself. However i don't like it when guys overly express there emotional episodes: "I am a guy and i cried to this!" "I bawled my eyes out to this... And i'm a guy!" Nobody gives a fuck, it doesn't make a damn difference if you are a guy or not. Society has this strange perspective that crying is for the weak, i'm not a weak person.

[CrimsonMoon]

I think the only thing that makes you less of a man - is THINKING that crying makes you less of a man. Hope that makes sense. My bf cries in tv and movies as much as I do. It just means you're sensitive and caring, which in my books is a good thing.

Quoted because I agree with this. Crying because of touching or sad scenes means that you have a heart. It means you're sensitive enough to feel what it's like to be in the same position. I, for one, will cry when sad scenes come. Not bawling, just tearing up, lol. If you're bawling, then there IS something wrong. o.o

[ilovepuppies32]

It's not about being a man. It's the fact that it would feel silly to me.

I think you guys kind of accused me of trying to sound like a "man" lol

[Hollow Ichigo]

Okay this is embrassing but when I was a little kid I cried with the pokemon on the first movie. When Ash got turned to stone and all the.pokemon started crying I.just couldn't help it.

Then I cried a few years later after hearing Bleach was ending. And then again on the final ep. Am I man. Hear me Cry.

[T-Stew]

I thought about this myself, getting into anime a bit later in life and felt kind of silly to be watching 'cartoons', and said cartoons making me cry! And I'm more of a show no emotion on the outside kind of guy. But when I'm by myself watching a show I get really into it, heart racing, edge of seat, etc. In fact I wouldnt really call an anime good unless I cried once or twice in it I think! Its all about the story, and how much your in-tune with it.

[BrockDecoy]

@ Jasanime (http://www.animeforum.com/member.php?285141-Jasanime)

No, I haven't seen it so no I haven't cried to it :laugh:

@ Road (http://www.animeforum.com/member.php?288290-Road)

I know what you mean, I cried at the end of Eden of the East, I won't say what happened just in case no-one's seen but the last bit made me cry and so did the end of the Girl Who Leapt Through Time.

@Princess Cupcake (http://www.animeforum.com/member.php?57011-Princess-Cupcake)

Thanks hun.

@ Cantelope (http://www.animeforum.com/member.php?18895-Cantelope)

:laugh:

@ CrimsonMoon (http://www.animeforum.com/member.php?80272-CrimsonMoon)

I definitely feel something when I cry to movies, shows and such, I feel the person's pain/joy in the storyline and get so moved/touched that I just start streaming tears of over the masterpiece of the directors & writers and sometimes I like that feeling & crying because the emotion is so beautiful because I understood & enjoyed the story of that motion picture!

@ Hollow Ichigo (http://www.animeforum.com/member.php?67323-Hollow-Ichigo)

I cried when I watched Lion King... and Titanic :sweatdrop

[Wio]

I feel like a complete wuss & less of a man when I do

Your problem is that you're worried about being a man. Everyone does weird things, and the fact that you do something weird like crying to anime is simply circumstantial to the actual problem.

You need to ditch the attitude that you must do and must not do certain things to be a man. This attitude is unfair to you and to the men around you. No behavior is going to change the fact that you are a man. People who say men are supposed to this and not do that (you are currently among such people), are only making life harder for men by putting them in cages. All behavior protocols should either be applied to all humans equally or to no one.

When it to being a wuss, the question is whether you're think you are being too cautious or not. If you are cautious to the point that it is detrimental to you or you friends, then you either need to be less cautious or get different friends. I don't think crying during an anime is applicable.

[Hanamaru Kunikida]

Nah, people are say you're a wuss are just weak and ignorant. Men are allowed to show emotion as well.

Also, I liked The Vow. >_>
<_<
>_>

[CrimsonMoon]

Okay this is embrassing but when I was a little kid I cried with the pokemon on the first movie. When Ash got turned to stone and all the.pokemon started crying I.just couldn't help it.

Dude, trust me, you're not the only one who cried when watching that scene.

Because I do too, lol.

[Ragenomics]

Okay this is embrassing but when I was a little kid I cried with the pokemon on the first movie. When Ash got turned to stone and all the.pokemon started crying I.just couldn't help it.

Guilty as well.

Crying during shows isn't anything to be embarrassed about. To find yourself so emotionally connected to something shows just how good it is and makes you human.

In my early days as an anime fan I was hugely into Rurouni Kenshin, and when I watched the 'Trust & Betrayal' OVA's for that I don't mind saying I cried as it came to a close. I found it made me appreciate the overall experience more.

[GrimStride]

I think that crying has a somewhat therapeutic effect when you do it every once in a while and there's nothing strange in shedding a few tears when watching anime. Especially certain genres , where you have lots of moments which are meant to tear you up .


I remember i couldn't hold back my tears when i was watching Hajime No Ippo . I won't go into details ; its the scene in the hospital when his mother collapsed and he was saying he will abandon boxing .

[Munchman]

It depends , are they manly tears or preteen girl tears?

[SakuraKiss13]

HELL TO THE "NO"

Like for instance, I'm a guy.. and I have already cried liters of tears on anime. Because after all, no matter what gender we are.. we're human beings.
We cry because there is sadness or joy it just shows that you have feelings and that is not absolutely that you're weird or anything like that..

Honestly, I get sick whenever people tease men who cry saying like what a crybaby. Seriously...

[ilovepuppies32]

When I think about crying I think about something very important. When I watch a cartoon I think of it as just a cartoon and it makes me feel silly to have actual emotions over it. It's not like I want to try and be tough or something.

[T-Stew]

ilovepuppies32

I dont think we are talking about toons here, maybe some, but I'm talking about the more serious anime. I dont cry when wile e coyote falls to his death, thats a bit different. Have you ever cried at a real movie? If no, then I dont know, maybe you just dont connect to what your watching emotionally, or just more emotionless than most of us, IDK. If yes, then whats the difference with anime? Just because its drawn instead of filmed? Well most movies now are computer animated to the point that there is more fake graphic parts than real filmed parts. Sure real movies typically have more thought put into the story, more realistic drama, (bigger budgets) etc, but thats not to say that some animes dont stack to them as well. If an anime didnt make me excited, happy, sad, etc, I'd shut it off and look for something else.

[Hollow Ichigo]

Cpnfession Time. I cried again on April Fool's Day. Adult Swim pulled the most hurtful move ever. They showed TOONAMI!!!! RAGEFACE ULTIMATE COMBO BREAKER ASSUALT!!!!

[ilovepuppies32]

ilovepuppies32

I dont think we are talking about toons here, maybe some, but I'm talking about the more serious anime. I dont cry when wile e coyote falls to his death, thats a bit different. Have you ever cried at a real movie? If no, then I dont know, maybe you just dont connect to what your watching emotionally, or just more emotionless than most of us, IDK. If yes, then whats the difference with anime? Just because its drawn instead of filmed? Well most movies now are computer animated to the point that there is more fake graphic parts than real filmed parts. Sure real movies typically have more thought put into the story, more realistic drama, (bigger budgets) etc, but thats not to say that some animes dont stack to them as well. If an anime didnt make me excited, happy, sad, etc, I'd shut it off and look for something else.

It's not that anime isn't as good as real movies. It's that it would be silly to cry over a story.

[-Kairi-]

Quoted because I agree with this. Crying because of touching or sad scenes means that you have a heart. It means you're sensitive enough to feel what it's like to be in the same position. I, for one, will cry when sad scenes come. Not bawling, just tearing up, lol. If you're bawling, then there IS something wrong. o.o

I agree. Crying does not mean you are weak or pathetic, just means you are actually human and not some damn robot that society has made some guys to be. I mean come on, you were born a human. Were would humans be without emotions, sympathy, or worries? Over the generations it was bad for a male to actually cry, but I say unless you do not have a heart and actually care about something? Then you are no human at all, but that is my opinion so yeah..

[nanashipiero]

Yep, I agree with the people that said crying means you have a heart. Now, bawling, on the other hand, is melodramatic for both women and men.

...and that is all I have to say that hasn't really been said already.

[DOOM!]

Man. Otaku wuss.
Also, [Hah, no manly parts!]

[OtakuInu!!!]

No, that doesn't make you less of a man. A real man is not ashamed of showing his feelings/emotions.

I know how it feels to be touched to tears by a scene in a movie/show. And crying feels good sometimes.

[plumpuff]

I think the notion that men are supposed to be less emotional than women is incredibly stupid and sexist. You can feel what you want, and express it however you wish; who cares about your gender?

[Anime Forum]

Not at all bro! I've cried before when watching certain anime so I can ensure you it doesn't mean you're pathetic, just a human like me and everyone else here.

[Kaleohano]

Chocking up, understandable.
Crying...to Sailor moon? ehh thats a lil much in my opinion. lol
but hey! if anyone wants to rip on you for crying about ANYTHING, you let big bro DerGerman know and i'll personally do all i can to make them cry! Physical pain is always an option.

[OminousCloud]

Someone will be over to take back your man card in the very near future...

[Jasanime]

Just putting this out there - the older I get, the more I cry in movies, anime etc. Before I was 21, I'd cried in maybe 2 movies? But now I cry in almost everything I watch! I think now that I have my partner and our little family (2 dogs) I can relate to sad things more because I now have something that I care about so much...

Has anyone else experienced this?

[CrimsonMoon]

Just putting this out there - the older I get, the more I cry in movies, anime etc. Before I was 21, I'd cried in maybe 2 movies? But now I cry in almost everything I watch! I think now that I have my partner and our little family (2 dogs) I can relate to sad things more because I now have something that I care about so much...

Has anyone else experienced this?

Yes, I do. I personally think that the older we get, the more sensitive we become of other people. When I was a teenager, I'm more sensitive to MY feelings. In other words, I was selfish. But now that I'm older, I realize that other people matter too. That's why I become more sensitive of others' feelings. And maybe that's why I feel it's only natural that we can relate to other people's feelings, and sadness is one of them, and we express it by crying. Nothing wrong with that.

[SuXrys]

No.

Simple as that. Some cries, some don't. It doesn't matter what sex you belong to.

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Over the generations it was bad for a male to actually cry
Some hundred years ago it was one of the manliest things a man could do.

[Road]

Just putting this out there - the older I get, the more I cry in movies, anime etc. Before I was 21, I'd cried in maybe 2 movies? But now I cry in almost everything I watch! I think now that I have my partner and our little family (2 dogs) I can relate to sad things more because I now have something that I care about so much...

Has anyone else experienced this?
I have noticed this as well. Maybe its tying the things you deeply care about and the emotional part of what you are watching?

[sunnyside]

For the OP, you're in luck, being a macho man hasn't really been in style since the Villiage People were on the charts.

These days it seems western girls prefir metrosexuals, where you're exibiting traits traditionally associated with homosexuality, and in the east you've got the whole bishōnen thing where the objective seems to be to look and act like a girl with just a hint of masculinity in your posture and voice and a little less kawai going on.


Just putting this out there - the older I get, the more I cry in movies, anime etc. Before I was 21, I'd cried in maybe 2 movies? But now I cry in almost everything I watch! I think now that I have my partner and our little family (2 dogs) I can relate to sad things more because I now have something that I care about so much...

Has anyone else experienced this?

I've experienced the opposite. I increasingly find myself involuntarily dropping the needed suspention of disbelief and thinking about the writers and stuff.

For example I'll be watching what should be a tearjerking scene in Avatar, and ruin it by thinking something like "Really? An entirely virtual world and that's the blocking and camera angle James went with?"

It's even worse with old books, since I'll have come across some interview where the writers is talking about how they wrote the stuff up just to promote socialism/objectivism whatever. I just can't empathize with the characters after that. And this feeling spills over to other books and media.

When I was younger it was much easier to stay in the mindset where you, at an emotional level, feel like your TV is a window where you're looking at real people who are doing things right now, or a book is like somebodies diary.

[darkrider21]

id say no. il admit it. i cry to animes also

[Mugiwara-no-Basuke]

No.

Simple as that. Some cries, some don't. It doesn't matter what sex you belong to.

Indeed! :) I'm the kind of guy who doesn't cry watching animes (or with most of emotive things, can get touched of course but hardly cry), but that doesn't matter, you're not strange (unless you're crying for some nonsense thing lol), don't worry about that :P
Looking at just that you're just as a man as I am and as human as everyone else, either crying or not

[Creasy]

You are a very sensitive individual, dont be ashamed of that.

[threewolves]

Unless you follow the god, Crom, and are named Conan, then no its not weird. :) I've teared up to a few animes so far, and other movies. If it tugs at your heart strings and feels like your throat is getting tight, then it means your human. :) Honestly, if you didnt tear up to the things that really pull on what makes you tick, I would consider that weird.

[tesaamari]

it's anime~
everything in here is acceptable :3

[Mystelinth]

it's anime~
everything in here is acceptable :3

Completely true.

.. Personally i also swiped a few tears away at some animes. xD

[YouLikeRainbows]

Pssssssssh I cry watching like every anime :D

[S o l o]

YES! You're possibly the weirdest guy I know! Whats wrong with you?! Men don't cry! Are you a man? I don't think you are. e.e get out of my sight...



LAWL. Jk. I find nothing strange about men/boys/guys/dudes crying. o__o More power to ya if you do. Alot of guys don't admit to crying. You've got balls my good man.
(Hope I can say that. o 3o ooops.~)

[The Ace RailGun]

Guilty as well.

Crying during shows isn't anything to be embarrassed about. To find yourself so emotionally connected to something shows just how good it is and makes you human.

In my early days as an anime fan I was hugely into Rurouni Kenshin, and when I watched the 'Trust & Betrayal' OVA's for that I don't mind saying I cried as it came to a close. I found it made me appreciate the overall experience more.


I agree however usually when I cry after I watch a really emotional or sad anime I won't be all out bawling but more so I'll just shead a few tears. The anime that made me cry the most was Grave of the Fireflys. It was such a sad movie...:' (

[marvelangga]

I don't cry when I'm watching with my siblings... it's embarrassing... >.< but when I'm alone, I can cry to the point of catching a cold... (ahh Clannad...)

[MVPDJ23]

Like I always cried to some parts on Sailor Moon, Eden of the East & the Girl Who Leapt Through Time, I feel like a complete wuss & less of a man when I do but for some reason I feel what the characters feel at the exact moments in the shows and then my eyes start weeping & watering, I get very weak & then I cry.

I feel like a joke just for mentioning this now lol

well it normal when a dude cries, i mean i cry to an anime too when its soo touching to me lol

[sabishii1/2]

There's nothing wrong or weird about crying over an anime even if your a guy your still human right? I myself do that... because it's not that different watching a movie or reading a novel... and come on crying is also no different from laughing it's just one of the humans basic emotions..... so crying doesn't make you less of a guy nor less of a human.... those people who are saying the because your a guy you mustn't cry that falls down to sexual discrimination I think :D and they are the one's who are weird on multiple levels....



Ow! one piece of advice just wipe your snot when you are crying because that's the only thing I think that is embarrassing when crying ahahaha peace yoh! :cool:

[Mugiwara-no-Basuke]

You are a very sensitive individual, dont be ashamed of that.

Exactly! :D

Like tesaamari said, everything is possible at anime :)