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Hey OP, all this talk about people who are unattractive hating shallow people makes me think thou doth protest too much. I think you're ugly, and you probably smell funny.
Last edited by Capernicus; 09-07-2010 at 08:50 PM.
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._. So mean...cant well all just get aloooong~?
If someone blatantly compliments themselves or shows off all the time, even if they are cute, I start thinking they're...well not so cute. Yay for modesty~!
Um...yes I believe looks do matter in a relationship but it shouldnt be the BASE of it. Things should even out. If you think someone else is attractive then to hell with everyone else. They're beautiful in your eyes right? <33~
But yeah..being easy on the eyes doesnt hurt now does it? ;3
I don't think being shallow is a virtue, anyone who thinks so is shallow. Couragous, fearless, common-sense, intellegent; those are virtues.
I don't mind it if people are like that.... doesn't help if I want to ask a girl out but hey, if she wants that good looking dude then whatever.
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Shallow people and I don't get along very well. They tell me things as if it were so simple, and the way they say it is just....low.(?)
Shallowness isn't just determined on whether you think someone is attractive or not.
And attractiveness is part of the reason most people start a relationship, so it wouldn't make sense to say that it is being shallow.
Being shallow is only looking out for oneself. Part of every romantic relationship is physical attraction, so if you reject someone for being repulsive to you, then you are not shallow, you are honest. Honesty is the best policy.
good looks are pointless if they have a bad personality
Attraction is a big thing in most relationships - if you can't get turned on by your partner your sex life isn't going to be the greatest now is it?
That said, all things in moderation. I notice some take it so far as calling anyone who isn't a supermodel ugly (even if they're not much to look at themselves) and they rub me pretty badly (plus leave themselves wide open to virgin insults) but on the flip side you get those who seem 'to deep' and half the time they come off as a-holes.
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I think most - if not all - people have a degree of shallowness. Who hasn't rejected a person or object based on looks alone at one point or another?
As for relationships, I could never be with someone I didn't find aesthetically pleasing, no matter how compatible their personality may be.
Well, I am not gonna lie, I am shallow to a degree but after getting a good perspective, I got less shallow. Personality above all less wins top of my list. Yes, looks are important to a degree but really, if you like someone for only their looks, that gets nowhere. I believe having a deep connection with someone keeps a relationship alive.
I find that the media has labeled attractiveness in a bad way such as being really skinny is a good thing. (Well, unhealthy skinny) The media needs to embrace true beauty more than fake beauty.
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True beauty is subjective.
I've rejected girls for their looks, as well as had it happen to me [I'm guessing anyway]. I don't expect them to be smoking hot models, but I do have standards. The beached whale crying "love me for who I am" isn't going to tug at my heart strings, because who she is, is a beached whale drowning in twinkies and diet coke. However, the average looking girl - oh how Average is cruelly nebulous - will get attention from me if she has a nice personality. She doesn't have to be gorgeous, she just can't be ugly.
Well, humans are shallow and vain by nature, that's pretty much how we are wired (halo effect). That doesn't mean everyone is always this way, though, or that they can't expand upon/change their prior standards or preferences.
However, "being shallow" doesn't just apply to the judgement of physical appearance - it can also apply to intellect, personality, understanding, morality, maturity, emotion, and so on.
Intellectual shallowness/laziness, overt egotism, and the personality of a coat hanger are huge turnoffs for me. I can handle talking to someone with a third ear and possibly a hump on their forehead, but regardless of how they visually appear, if at any point they annoy the crap out of me by talking about the OC, their sick cats, and their new Prada handbags, the more I feel like clocking myself to the forehead with a hammer than having anything to do with them.
Oh, and another deal breaker would be BO, or just an overuse of way too much cologne/spray/hair gel/body mist ... or whatever scent you smell like you've marinated yourself in.
The more I like you, the more pleasing to my eyes you (may) become depending (if you aren't already), the more annoying I find you or dislike you, the more distorted you look and become to me. At this point, your washboard abs and chiseled face no longer really do anything for me (if they ever did in the first place.) Case in point, if you come across to me as a bowl of diarrhea, your appearance really won't mean much to me.
Oh my, the lucky girls who must get "attention" from you.Originally Posted by Cobra Commander
This is true. Being shallow is selfish "looking out for one's self", but shallowness isn't always honesty. Most of the time, it's fear.Originally Posted by Cobra Commander
Last edited by Miss Moonlight; 09-09-2010 at 05:53 AM.
My attention is generally respectful and non-threatening. I say generally because there's always someone ready with a can of mace at the first "hello".
Fear? Maybe. I think it's knowing what you're looking for. Prerequisites. Now, you might see the person of your dreams somewhere and she'd have all the personality of a crushed beer can, or maybe she's just perfect. Or you could compromise and find someone decent looking that makes you happy. What I'm saying is there's a point down the line where there can be no compromise.
Would you date a one-eyed peg-legged leper? Or a really fat guy with grease stains all over his shirt that always smelled funny? Sometimes, it just ain't happening.
People like what they like. If you arent physically attracted to someone why would you date them? Thats like dating someone you find physically attractive but dont like their personality. Both things have to line up for honest attraction. There may be special scenarios where this is not the case
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Shallow is about not being able to judge by what really matters, but only what benefits yourself.
What matters and what the benefits are, are different depending on the people. According to Miss M's post, I can infer that she is looking for a deeper connection to someone, and it's okay if they're not perfect so long as she likes them. Some of us just aren't the same way. Physical attraction is very important to me, and I'm at least willing to admit that about myself, whereas a lot of people aren't.
There are many personality traits, some of which I undoubtedly possess, that are a major turn off. It's not worth it to name them all off, I'm sure they're pretty common.
Thats not what I suggested at all. You asked who else is supposed to benefit from the relationship but yourself. It makes sense that if you're in a relationship with another person that you care about them enough not to be an unhealthy element in their life. You want to give AND receive, not just suck them dry for all your needs (i realize how naughty this sounded, but for once in my life i don't intend the dual meaning).
I mean if you arent looking for a relationship where you enhance someone's life as well as your own....then you might as well just buy a hooker or be a user
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