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There's more to that. I just didn't want to bore everyone to death by typing something looong.
Angry and Yell-y doesn't do squat. My mom got angry and yelled all the time, I never cared until my dad got involved. It's about respect and intimidation; and fear of a guy who might just beat the living s$*^ out of you if you don't learn your lesson, fast.
Like I said, right now it sounds like he's the alpha male by default. Instinctively, he feels entitled and superior because of it. He is an animal, and needs someone to whack him across the nose with that figurative newspaper. Sorry to say, it's unlikely you two possess that newspaper.
Disclaimer: I'm not a psychologist, and I know there are probably dozens of books out there that would disagree with my assessment and treatment methods. I just speak from personal experience.
My sister and I are nearly 2 years apart. Her and I fought a lot, she tried to order me around, I fought back. I didn't beat her up or anything but I would never let her have her way. As we got older, we did fight but we also had good sibling moments. I think it just comes with being young and growing older and when you are in high school and getting close to graduating, it does get way better.
Every great work of art has two faces, one toward its own time and one toward the future, toward eternity.
Here is my family!:
lilminx: My awesome big sister!
*Tsuki*: Awesome lil sister!
Teddy2116:Cool big bro!
Hikaru_Hitachiin: Cool older Brother!
kirei-chan: Awesomo big sister!
Serpentarius: Brother in law!
I have two siblings. My sister is three years younger than me and my brother is just one year, which is a pain in the butt.
My brother constantly tries to overcome me, usually via threats, insults, and the tough-guy act. Truth is, I can beat him up if I wanted to and we have gotten into serious fist fights when we were young. I am [always] victorious during these fits. I don't hate him, since it's my morality to love my family, but I don't like him. I love him, but I don't like him. >.> Plus, he puts a strain on my mom, acting like he's the king because he is the only guy in the household. That strain causes my mom to rage out and that is not pretty.
My sister is like my other half. I literally wouldn't know what I'd do without her. She cracks jokes with me and we have this bond where we constantly make fun of each other, but laugh about it. I eat my meals with her most of the time, which is important because our family isn't very affectionate nor do we ever eat meals together unless we're at a restaurant. I love her, but she does get irritating sometimes because she is on the slow side, meaning she has A LOT of blonde moments. For example, yesterday she asks me if peaches were fruits. o_o;
I have a very annoying, attention-hungry, loud mouthed, cry-baby, five year old brother. As much as I wanted to strangle him sometimes...I feel bad afterwards when I had yelled or hit him. He did something to deserve it though! <<; Maybe I'm too impatient. Kids annoy me.
And I have a 21 year old sister who is the most bi-polar and angriest person I have ever had the pleasure to live with. >>; She's really really mean sometimes...and that is 90 percent of the time.
But I'd be lonely without them and I I love them. <33~
"They didn't need to tell eachother. They never needed to tell eachother."
I'm not exactly a psychologist, but you can say I have at least some background. I hope you read this and I hope it helps you with your problem. And I'm sorry if my post seemed a little inconsistent, as I am a little sleepy.
I have a loud, fat brother at the age of 11. Immature, plays M rated games because HE BEGGED TOO HARD, and is more of a b**** rather than a b*****d. Likes to show off, even when no one's around. Uses things without permission, takes my stuff, is annoying, lazy, doesn't do any decent housework; all he does is play, play, and watch TV, is currently registering on PlayOnline so he can play FFXI WHICH I PAYED FOR, and is bothering me to DEATH. Plus he's eating away all the foods we bought like a disease on a weak, sleepless kid.Likes to show off, even when no one's around. Uses things without permission, takes my stuff, is annoying, lazy, doesn't do any decent housework; all he does is play, play, and watch TV, is currently registering on PlayOnline so he can play FFXI WHICH I PAYED FOR, and is bothering me to DEATH. Plus he's eating away all the foods we bought like a disease on a weak, sleepless kid.
Negative feelings do not make things go better; only worse. Negative feelings will only hurt you and make both of you be bad with each other.I hate. This boy.
You see? That's what I'm talking about.I want to choke him, nail him on a wall, burn him to a crisp, destroy, disintergrate, dry him, fork his eyes, cut out his intestines and sell it at Soho. BADLY.
Now it's not your fault that your brother is like this. I can blame this more than 90% on your parents. However, by being bad with him, you are only adding another reason for him to be worse. And that will also make things worse for you in return.
Sadly, most people who I've seen have some stupid spoiled child, which they think of as something normal, or a "typical" child. However, if that means anything, it only shows how people are ignorant to psychology and the whole parenting thing.Tell me I'm not the only one with this stupid brat.
That's a very wrong thing to do as a mother. If I were his parent, I'd have followed completely different strategies with that child.Besides, my mom can sometimes become roaring angry and yell at my brother.
Because he begs too hard? Is that your (or your mother's) excuse to let the kid get something he shouldn't? When a parent says no, then it's definitely NO. Period. End of story. Even if he begs, cries, rages, yells, screams, throws things, threatens to do bad things... No way he'll get what he wants. And any inappropriate behavior should be punished right away.plays M rated games because HE BEGGED TOO HARD
If you keep saying no for two hours, and then you give him the game, it's like telling him "the next time you want something and we say no, just burn our nerves for two hours and we'll give up and give it to you. Because we are too weak to keep up with you. You get what you want."
It's hard to describe the whole thing on the internets, on a forum. But there are a lot of books out there which you can read and learn how to control the situation.
There IS something that you can do about it. You need to develop a sense of responsibility over that child. Yeah, it's not your mess, but you are involved in it. And if it stays like this, it will keep damaging you, consuming you and everyone else. And it might turn out very badly for that child. There is certainly a way that you can fix the situation. And you certainly can do it. You should also talk to your mother about it, and tell her that you both need to change your way with that child if you ever want him to change.
I suggest that you read some good book on parenting and behavioral psychology. Also, you need to develop some essential skills, such as being able to deal with stress, learning how to be detached and preventing or dealing with negative feelings. You can start out by trying to Google some web resources. Well, it's not guaranteed that you'll get complete, 100% accurate solutions on the web, but at least it will give you some background and provide you with lots of useful information. I might Google some pages and post them here later.
Last edited by Aku no Hikari; 01-24-2010 at 04:33 PM.
my sister and i are one year apart. when we were five we fought like cat and mouse. now it's more mental and emotional fighting, but there's like 80% less fighting in the house.
we can't continually fight since we're trying to open a couple accounts online, make cosplays, and deal with school. there's so much to do that we just don't even care who scoops the litter box or who bought the new GI or who sets the table. we're over that and thank god...
yeah siblings are annoying, but to every only child that i have talked to, they all wish for my little sister.
I am 13 and he is 16..too immature to be called 16. He doesn't have any manners, he curses, he abuses, he spits on my face, he he hits me, he slaps me, he punches, he kicks me, he tears my books, my notebooks, takes away the computer and TV when I am working on either of them, he steals my stuff, he snores like a truck driver which means he doesn't let me sleep as well, he doesn't let me study, he destroys my assignments, projects, he gets me scolded, he doesn't let me play my PSP, he cries and gets everything although it is completely useless and although he is 16!!!!!!!
My brother is totally manner-less and watches weird stuff on TV..he really brings tears to me, each and every day and night....
I HATE HIM!!!!!!!!
And you know what...my mummy doesn't at all say ANYTHING to him...she says it is just fair enough and that he cares for me....if this is what "care" is, then I don't want to be loved....
He hits me so hard and very moment he makes me feel that I am weaker than him..and I hate this inferiority complex..
You won't believe it how annoying he is..oh wait, he is not annoying, he is hateful and now, I have stopped speaking to him and if it goes on like this then I won't speak to him ever..
And the most hateful thing is that I still care for..I hate him and I still care for him..why the hell???? But yea..I won't speak to him all my life.....
Last edited by Stripes; 01-25-2010 at 04:28 AM.
I have two siblings. One is my twin sister (we're both 15 y/o) She is kind of the sossy type. I hate her some times but she's still my very best friend evar.
And then my li'l brother (11) he's a jerk. He is my servant, I mean, I always shout to him "get me this, get me that, clean that, do that" and all the sh*t you thought.
i feel sorry for you.lucky me,i'm the only hcild..but i'd love to have a sibling..
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Girl I hate you so much!
You know I don't mean that,right??
to BakaFairy.. you sure do love your bro.. you noticed everything about him...
i have 6 older sibs..
but i neve had the chance to live with them.. since they were all grown ups when i came along...
but i love them...
and in our family...
i have a younger bro @ 15 and a sis @ 7....
i love both of them.. though they are a pain in the ***...
when i was younger..
and our sister was not yet around,...
my bro and i always hit each other.. quarrel all day... and do things that will ruin one another...
until our parents stops us...
how i hate those times...
i always asked why do ineed to have sibs.. when i will be happier when i am an only child...
but then, some events made me realize...
that them being there and pissing you off.. is one way of showing that they care about you in waysy ou can't even imagine..
i can't remember the last time my brotherand i fought.. emotionally and physically...
all i remember is that..
he and my younger sister were there to cry with me in one of the most troubling times in my life..
then they teased me and try to engage me in a quarrel..
a few days later when i asked them why they did it.. you know crying with me and fighting me afterwards...
they said.. that theyare not used to see me crying...
i am a brat, i am strong, intelligent.. they look up to me because it seems that i can do anything... they are not used to see me crying that's why they made me quarrel with them.. thaysaid. being weak is not a personality trait of mine...
that day and the rest that followed..
i stick to the vow i made to be more patient with them...
and now, almost four years after...
though we still have some spats.. it's in a more teasing fashion than before...
my sibs love me...
and fightin is part of growing up...
it's normal.. as long as you know your limitations...
I guess I'm greatful my brothers weren't that bad, I was more upset by how they treated each other (terribly). Before they got bigger than me I would destroy them if I needed to, for the most part I think I had their respect though.
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am an only child, iv always wanted an older brother. it can get pretty depressing with noone to fight.
mind you i feel pretty sorry for my mum she was the seventh of ten kids
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