I've been having a discussion with a friend of mine on the art of arguing. I would like to know what you do in an argument/debate; Do you listen to the other person, or are you just waiting for your turn to talk?
I used to be the latter. Somewhere in this forum I mentioned being a hothead and this is very true still, but while on my own personal journey of self awareness and preservation I realized that in an argument I did NOT listen to the other person at all. I didn't care about their views or ideals, I just wanted them to SHUT UP so I can prove them wrong.
When I realized that about myself I immediately wanted to change my behavior. Life is all about compromise anyways, right? So now I (almost forcefully I might add) try to listen and step outside the box in order to appreciate their point of view at least; BEFORE proving them wrong.
Take a minute to think about arguments/debates that you've had with other people. Are YOU just waiting to speak? Let the discussion begin