What would you do when you found out you were used?

[JaceKitty]

I just found out i was used.......
The feelings makes you wanna suicide
omg im going totally emo right now
no seriously
what would you do
im just going to go to bed
to make matters worst school is starting
why......

[Miss Moonlight]

Well, no one likes to be used. I can say that from experience. The best thing to do is to realize that it isn't your fault, and to move on from it from there.

[Infinita]

I agree with Miss Moonlight on that one. It's not your fault that it happened to you. I would have to say it's there faults for being greedy and selfish.

[tsujigiri15]

I agree with both the above. Depending on the circumstances, I might try to work out my frustration with exercise. Which in these situations often involves hitting things...

Actually, school can be 'theraputic too - if you can force your mind onto your lessons/mates, it can distract you

Tough luck, btw

[kajikun16]

well if i found out i was used mostly just ignore that person and never talk to him/her ever again and move on with life

[CrystalAce]

Well, it depends on how I was used and the circumstance under which I was used .


If I was used for a good cause or a good reason (that is without any proper acknowledgement) and the person truly apologizes later on, then I don't mind being used. Just a humble person, I am.


But, if I was used for the selfish gain and interest of other people and also harming me in several ways, then, I would kick his *** (butt) and blow his cover. Quite a revengeful and kicking-*** person too, I am.

[Capernicus]

You should get over it as soon as possible (which isn't always easy). Being angry and/or hurt is not healthy over long periods of time. The best thing to do is forgive the user and move on with your life.

[Aleyna]

Who hurt your feelings, and why? Did they do it intentionally or unintentionally?

I'm sorry to hear that you are feeling down, but just because a person "did you wrong" doesn't mean you have to start thinking about suicide. You are going to come across a lot of people in your life who will use you, trust me. So keep living you're life and enjoy all of your traits about you that make you who you are. Think of it this way: if a person is using you, it's obvious that they envied something or had a jealously over you. You can always turn something negative into something positive, so think of what happened to you as a learning experience to bring up your inner strength inside of being able to deal with bad situations.

[Amray The II]

It depends what I have been used for. I can usually decipher when someone is messing me around or not and I also only trust people I know greatly. Despite that though I still do not place full trust to everyone I know, or who I think I know; including friends.

I have never been used before and I think that I would be able to find out about it before it gets too much. Anyway, even if someone was successful at 'using' me, I would probably not care anyway. As I stated before: it depends on what I have been used for.

[rikumi]

If I found out I was used, be it. Life goes on.

 

Just ignore the damn person already~!

[LittleGirl]

This guy completely used me a couple years ago, and basically told me so at this party. I was pretty upset, and left early. It just took me a couple days to get over it. I moved on with my life.

[golden girl]

just forgive that person but if you can then try to make him know what wrong he/she has done.

[Necro'lic Enigma]

I think i completely know whats it like to be used and if your being used constantly for money then....ah...forget it.
But what i do is acutally do nothing , i dont have any other choice other then to see the person who used me walk away and its better for me as my life is going.
This is what i do.

[DaSOCOM]

Screw forgiveness and use that person back...as a bullet catcher.

Seriously, though, get on with life. There are crappy people out there, learn to recognize them and then avoid them. Become mean and smart, that is the hardest combination to use. Or even better, become a user yourself. Better to be the criminal than the victim in my mind.

Peace,
DaSOCOM

[blueangel06661]

I was used for money once.. I caught them stealing from me red handed. I don't talk to them at all now. Using people for their money/stuff is low. REAL low.

Then another time I was used by another friend who wanted her x-bf's number [I was his best friend] when he personally told me to not give it to her no matter what... She told me off when I would not give it to her. So I was like "okay" and quit talking to her for months..

[Mewsic]

Indeed, I too was used once by two of my dearest friends for my unknown cause.Once I found out I was outraged and made them feel sorry, now I'm friends with them, again! v.v (end of story)

[Zenga]

It depends. If it was for a good reason, I'd just suck it up and get over it. If it was just for another person's enjoyment, I'd feel a bit sorry for myself then pick up a bat and beat the crap out of them/him/her.

[Diocletian]

I just found out i was used.......
The feelings makes you wanna suicide
omg im going totally emo right now
no seriously
what would you do
im just going to go to bed
to make matters worst school is starting
why......

Suicide sounds like a great idea. If someone betrayed me I'd kill myself for sure. Please commit euthenasia at my office located in California.

[Magical Soul]

I'd go out on a murderous killing spree...

[Ridana]

For me it depends on a lot of things...

1) I've been asked ahead of time if someone could use me for something... that definitely put an unusual spin on it, since I had the option of being used or not. I agreed, and had a fun time of it.

2) I'm fairly aware of my weak points, and I often realize when someone is trying to use me... I would suggest being aware of what you can be used for is the best defense to prevent being used. Generally speaking, when I realize someone is trying to use me, I don't care about what they are trying to use me for, and if they had just asked me for the favor I would have agreed. I don't even bother to let them know that I know what they are doing. Again, since this is a conscious decision I can't blame them for using me, only for trying to.

Then the IMPORTANT one...

3) When I didn't realize that I was being used until afterward... This is the one that hurts, but why? Seriously, I try to assess the damage: am I out some amount of money, am I out some irreplaceable object of sentimental value, am I out a friendship, am I out a job? Those all hurt to varying degrees, but usually what I find is causing me the most long-lasting pain is that I am angry at myself for not realizing what was going on. The pain there actually serves a good purpose, as a motivator for improving my awareness of the situations that I involve myself in... much as a hangover is SUPPOSED to motivate you to be aware that drinking too much the night before is bad (I just had to re-learn that particular lesson this morning).

Frankly, I don't usually bother forgiving the person, if they hurt me I then have a good valid reason for not trusting them and being more careful with them in the future. Why would I wipe the slate clean and allow them to do it again? Conversely, if I haven't wiped the slate clean, have I really forgiven them?
As for forgiving myself, I try to take care of that in a reasonable time frame, it doesn't do much good to be mad at yourself for very long. I learn my lesson, treat my wounds, and forgive myself.

[BDNguyen]

Forgive or forget. If that doesn't work, gather some close friends mob assault that person.

[Bulf]

I honestly don't care if I was being used. I use people too, so there's nothing wrong with it the other way around.

[Haoie]

Time for revenge now?

[-akichan-]

I actually would make it sound dramatic. I would point to the person who seemed to used me, and shout at that person for everything he/she did while using me, especially when in public, I would point to that person and point out everything that was done with a very heavy voice to show that I'm too protective to be harmed by anyone.

[Sasori|Eternal Sacrifice|]

That depends on how I was used. I think the only thing remotely close for me being "used" was as a model for a photo shoot.

Relationship wise, I stay out of them. They're more stress to me than they're worth. Or maybe I just haven't found the right person, who knows.

Friend wise, I don't hang out much.

Normally though I'm the one ending fights and such, instead of being the subject of one..