Girlfriends and Boyfriends

[Dr. Hax]

Girlfriends?
Do what ever they say or they moan
Heed my warning

Even if you do what they say, they still moan. They don't stop.

That's why I have chosen to stay out of relationships for 3 years. They are too troublesome.

[gadgetgirl16]

eh... relationships are not that bad if you think positve, i've been single for about 8 months now and gave up looking. as for the past exs i had, a few were controling, the last one i had was extreamly controling. *sigh*
it's not just the girls who has a problem with controling their boyfriends on what they do, but a lot of guys can be like that too...

as for what i look in a guy is..

to be Respectful - for me, my family and friends...
to be Understandable - that i do have my needs and i know he dose too..
to Love - NOT LUST! i mostly i look for romance with emotional feelings... so hard to find these days.

[Capernicus]

I don't have any qualms about saying I'm whipped. I like it that way.

Of course, that's not to say I don't get grumpy on occasion and show my "manliness". Also, though pretty rarely, I show my "womanliness". Usually in the form of lashing back when I'm hurt.

Women are crazy, period. They play stupid woman games, make you guess and get upset when you get it wrong, toy with your mind, and push you to the brink of madness. But they are so hot. =D

[Diocletian]

i do not mean to burst your bubble here bro but have you taken English classes? Life lesson when people say something like for example (wasted) it can be taken both ways "wasted as in drunk wasted" or "wasted as in too tired to do anything" and don't assume you should know the true meaning of assumption caz you did it!!! you should think before you respond!!!thank you.....

Have you taken english classes? I can't understand anything beyond me not knowing what wastet means. Wastet is not in merriam webster so go pick up a copy read it 40 times & then tell people to take English classes.

I don't have any qualms about saying I'm whipped. I like it that way.

Ah, BDSM, the holy grail of relationships.

[Eris]

Ah, BDSM, the holy grail of relationships.

It is actually quite overrated. Looks a lot more fun than it is.

[Diocletian]

It is actually quite overrated. Looks a lot more fun than it is.

Congrats. You have single-handedly destroyed my reason for any future relationships.

Even if you do what they say, they still moan. They don't stop.

I smell a double entendre....

[Mitchyru]

IMO, telievison makes relationships seem so much more goo-ey & fake than they really are. they's one person for everyone. they'll come when they will.

[Dr. Hax]

Ah, BDSM, the holy grail of relationships.

I rant in my relationships. I also liked to cuss at my women during the nights. Does that count?

I smell a double entendre....

I realized that at the last moment.

IMO, telievison makes relationships seem so much more goo-ey & fake than they really are. they's one person for everyone. they'll come when they will.

Sometimes you have to force it out of 'em

[Eris]

Congrats. You have single-handedly destroyed my reason for any future relationships.

There may be a slight whatever rocks your boat-factor I guess.

[Dr. Hax]

Women rock his boat.

 

Then again, it depends on how much the woman weighs.

[Khanxay]

Women are crazy, period. But they are so hot. =D

Caps speaks the truth!

[dawnbreaks]

Have you taken english classes? I can't understand anything beyond me not knowing what wastet means. Wastet is not in merriam webster so go pick up a copy read it 40 times & then tell people to take English classes.




Ah, BDSM, the holy grail of relationships.

oh ok Mr. Perfect...."coughs"...so whats your story..?

[sunnyside]

@the OP. Unless your age is wrong you're waaaaay to young to get tied down. Relationships at your age should just be fun, build up your interaction skills, and generally get you some experience dealing with the opposite sex. Maybe spend some time dealing with the harder stuff for practice.

@Kat you might want to spend some time thinking about what you want in the long term, and see if you think he's the person for that. Or if you're just looking to enjoy yourself for the time being see about getting things so you're actually enjoying yourself.

My advice would be to avoid the trap of wanting abstract "time" with him. Think of something you'd like to do and get him interested in doing it with you. Could be anything from trying out a new restaurant, going to see something, or just staying in to watch a show or massage each other.

[dawnbreaks]

basically my story is well my girl broke up with me cause i was never around...i have a job that requires me to travel alot and hardly around...when she and i would see each other she would usually quarrel but when she cools off we hang and just cuddle together and express our feelings for each other and well in my mind i knew it was going to end but just went with the flow..i went away on a business trip for 3 months 1 week at Bangladesh and well when i reach back i went to see her only to find out she was seeing someone else and well explained to me that i am never around..i don't blame her i blame myself...to me she was everything and always looked forward to see her whenever i get back but now i can't look forward to nothing i mean i try my best to be around as much as i can but i have a life to live and no matter how much sacrifices i make i can't be around...so yeah that's my story on the topic......

[Gizoku]

I'm happy being single. Looking at my sister and her boyfriend, relationships seem like quite a hassle.

[FaeryTaleAngel]

I had a girlfriend a few months ago but i broke up with her. Why? because she over crowded me and came between me and music. I just thought she wasnt worth it and I dumped her. I really hate how some girlfriends make you hang out with their friends. I never got any alone time with her and it drove me nuts! Her friends also kept me on that same leash becasue when i told her i wanted to go practice my instruments, they said "You need to stay with her." jeez louise, has anybody else had girlfriends like this and know how to deal with them?

Besides she wasn't really the kind I'm into. I like girls who are small and Bossy. She was the opposite.

So post some stories and advice relating to girlfriends or boyfriends. also post what you look for in a girlfriend/boyfriend.

~*~**Twig Ee**~*~


Well, offering advice here should be fun. ^-^’ It seems to me like you made the right decision. She seems like; by the way you describe her, ridiculous. The only advice I have for you really is, maybe you should go after the type of girl that interests you next time. It may make things seem a lot better, especially if she likes you just as much as you like her. Being able to be yourself and do what you like in a relationship make it so much better—worth it. Especially if say, you had band practice or something along those lines, and she wanted to hang out with her friends (your lives away from each other), when you finally do see each other, it gives you guys something to talk about. Communication is key in most relationships, so try to keep that in mind. ^^’

I do not have a story, nor comment for what I look for in a relationship or individual. But thank you anyway. I would rather try to help people out though instead (try being the key word). ^-^


~*~**FaeryTaleAngel**~*~

Check this out. Entertain this situation for your brain. My boyfriend, whom I've been dating for four years, is in like 2 punk bands. He's a bassist and he's pretty good for a thrasher gutter punk half Irish half Scottish kid. I must say, I have no problems with reds heads. But lately I've been feeling kind of lonely. Rather than me playing the role as the evil smothering girlfriend who doesn't let the guy have any fun, hang out with friends, and play his blasted music, I do the exact opposite. I go to his shows, make his band flyers, make his album covers, and be as supportive as I possibly can. But I've payed the price. I'm not as alluring as the loud and obnoxious sound of punk rock underground. I currently can't play an instrument so I'm not cool enough to join the band wagon. It's clear that he's choosing the music over me, but what can I do really? I don't want to smother him, but at the same time I wish he'd come and see me every once in awhile.

okay well I'm done spewing my life. Any guys out there want to help me diagnose the problem with my punk rock hubby?

~*~**Kat**~*~


You need to give it time Kat. Really, with him being who he is, and you being who you are, things will tend to get a little rocky at times, but what is one more rocky course that life throws at us really? You are a good girlfriend, and he is a nice guy, but it seems that you both are going through your own situations right now. You made the right decision, and I give you major kudos for that (besides, kudo bars are delicious, especially the M&M ones). It took a lot of confidence/guts to do that, and I am proud of you. Just remember, keep holding on Kat, and be strong. I know you can be. It will just take some time and a little patience. You both love each other too much to let slight difference defuse you. I wish you all of and only the best of luck, in the Universe.


~*~**FaeryTaleAngel**~*~

basically my story is well my girl broke up with me cause i was never around...i have a job that requires me to travel alot and hardly around...when she and i would see each other she would usually quarrel but when she cools off we hang and just cuddle together and express our feelings for each other and well in my mind i knew it was going to end but just went with the flow..i went away on a business trip for 3 months 1 week at Bangladesh and well when i reach back i went to see her only to find out she was seeing someone else and well explained to me that i am never around..i don't blame her i blame myself...to me she was everything and always looked forward to see her whenever i get back but now i can't look forward to nothing i mean i try my best to be around as much as i can but i have a life to live and no matter how much sacrifices i make i can't be around...so yeah that's my story on the topic......

~*~**dawnbreaks**~*~


I am not quite sure what kind of advice here. But, if I did, I might say that you just need to find somebody who loves you for you and understands your situation. If they do completely, for both, then, things may or may not work out. Relationships can be tricky, especially with the whole traveling lot, and long distance thing. I know it is a bad example to base this off of, but if you can talk to an individual for hours on end, without even missing a beat, and time seems or feels as if it just flies by without any reason or rhyme, you can most likely sustain a long distance/even traveling relationship with a person. Sometimes, absence makes the heart grow fonder, but at the same time, it could do quite the opposite. Like I said above, relationships can be quite tricky, and as I also said to Twig Ee, for most cases, communication makes up a big part of relationships. Good luck!


~*~**FaeryTaleAngel**~*~

[l Falling Kite l]

Hmm, well i'd like a guy who is caring, considerate, makes me laugh, we'd have alot in common, enjoy the same things, etc. Attractiveness is a bonus.

Required:
honesty.
respect! is a big one.
trustworthiness.
consideration.
Brings out the good in me, and makes me feel good
Not the jealous or possessive type
I do not like liars, especially in a relationship
someone who matches and compliments my intelligence and creativity
kind, caring and understanding
has an awesome sense of humor
knows how to be there for me
does not take me for granted
appreciates me and what I do for them

It's amazing how i've mangaged to find all of that.

Hmm I hear your situation.. I kind was in the same one too but if advice is what you need ill give it too you.

So I had a girlfriend not to long ago about 2 months ago me and her were really cool close liked the same music got along great with everything but something I noticed is she always wanted to hang out with her friends and never along with me so one day I decided enough is enough and I told her If you really love me the way you claim you love me why is it such a problem to be alone together like we used to so I told her if she cant handle it I guess there was no point being with her (Of course there were other reasons as well which I dont believe is relevent but anyways) To make a long story short I dont think she was worth it if she couldnt meet you half way on what you wanted to do...

[Leleiron]

well... It sounds like relationships are hard to keep up with... I've never really been in one so (like a child) I thought that relationships are really interesting and fun. I guess that theres a flip side to it... theres a new thing that I've learnt...

[Yuuki Kurosu]

I don't think I have any stories, really.
But I look for someone who accepts you for who you are, who doesn't care about the little things. Flaws, perhaps? Someone who is kind, caring, respectful and does NOT lie. And would stand up for me. He wouldn't care what other people think. ^^

[FierceFeli.]

I think that something really important in a relationship is to have some time alone/with your friends away from eachother, so you'll get time to miss eachother and not get into that "what should we do today?" "I dunno" "me neither" "we'll watch tv." "whatever" "okay" like. that things to talk about runs out. When youve been with eachother 24/7 for 4 months straight you do get somewhat bored with someone, whoever it is, BF, GF, or just a friend.

And what I look for in a guy is someone I can trust with all my heart, who is honest with me and loves me for me even though my flaws, and who respects my needs and whom I respect back. And someone who I can talk about anything with and who is a best friend and a best boyfriend.
And I have found that person (A) lucky me, 10 months january 5th. <3

[Zombiliciouss]

I asked someone out just the other day and said yes >_> Just my contribution to this topic.

[sunnyside]

well... It sounds like relationships are hard to keep up with... I've never really been in one so (like a child) I thought that relationships are really interesting and fun. I guess that theres a flip side to it... theres a new thing that I've learnt...

They're all sorts of interesting and fun too. Especially at the beginning, and especially if it's a good match.

Real relationships have difficulties too. Though don't take that to mean any difficulty is normal. If you're a high schooler and such you shouldn't really have too many problems aside from people messing up in various ways.

But a marriage? Oh, yeah. Stuff will need sorting out.

[kat_star01]

HOLY CRAPSAUCE! I HAVE GOOD NEWS! In case anyone cared, my plight has a happy ending. My boyfriend and I totally talked it over and he apologized and confessed his feelings of his everlasting love and all that epic stuff. It was so super romantic and cheezy. ^__^

Hopefully my happy ending will remain that way, but just in case, I have my dukes up for whatever problem arises.

[Sakura Holic]

Warning! Huge lecture and wall of text a head! I'm sorry! ><

IMO:: Well... the thing is... You have to set your priorities first. My boyfriend comes first, then friends, then family. Know your priorities and make sure you want it that way. Next is what you look for in a relationship. Commitment or casual. My number one pet peeve is when people say, "I love you." but don't mean it at all. And they can not say "I love you" at the first week of your relationship. You don't know that person well enough and etc. I'm in a committed relationship at the moment. [Hard to believe I know... -points age-] But if you choose a committed relationship you HAVE to feel crowded with people. I mean his/her friends and his/her family you have to meet. Not to mention co-workers and the boss... and their friend's friends friends, etc. It drove me nuts to because I kept forgetting their names and it made me feel bad. BUT that didnt stop me. If you have something you need to do and its really important... tell your spouse that you need to practice or do what ever you got to do. If his/her friends say, "You should spend more time with him/her." Do that, but at the same time, multi task. You go and play your music while you send her in sweet melodies of life! =] But that wasnt the case was it? =/ Communication is the key to keep a relationship long lasting.

Right now, this is my second relationship. My very first... it was... DUMB. He dumped me because he felt that I deserved better, he tried to change me... and.... he felt no chemistry when its my first time. What the heck... right? I mean... first timers, you have to understand that they need to get used to things and they dont know what move to do next and so forth unless its their human nature... Which I highly doubt. But yea... My ex was being... what evers in the head and broke off with me a week later. I got a lot of experience and some more lacking... but I learned my lesson.

I'm sure you learned something as well?

[FaeryTaleAngel]

HOLY CRAPSAUCE! I HAVE GOOD NEWS! In case anyone cared, my plight has a happy ending. My boyfriend and I totally talked it over and he apologized and confessed his feelings of his everlasting love and all that epic stuff. It was so super romantic and cheezy. ^__^

Hopefully my happy ending will remain that way, but just in case, I have my dukes up for whatever problem arises.

~*~**Kat**~*~

I told you. Ahhehheh... ^^' That is so awesome-socks!!!!!!!

~*~**FaeryTaleAngel**~*~