Both. If it was only personality I'd be quite the tramp, considering the crowd I hang out with.
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Both. If it was only personality I'd be quite the tramp, considering the crowd I hang out with.
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You do look at looks first,but it just won't work for me...
Sure,cute looking girl are catching my eyes,but I'm far away from even imagining myself in relationship with them...
And they usually wear make-up...
I agree on the term that make-up makes them prettier,but what I think is that every girl is beautiful on her own way...without make-up...
In terms of shallow attraction,yes,I do look by the looks...
But before even wishing for relationship,I would get to know her,to see if she has the personality I like...
I'm the kind of person that's not into looks,I'm into personality...
You are walking down the street,and in store,you see some cake that looks brutally delicious!!!
Now,we're assuming that you're going to buy it and taste it...
But it just might happen that this cake is awfully bitter and disgusting for you...or just too sweet...
Now,why I said this?
You can compare it with cute and hot girl...think about it...think about it deeply...
When I look by the way the girl looks,I do that for no true reason...
When I look for someone I want to be with,I'm looking for an average girl,that is relaxed amongst friends and know how to have fun...
After that,I get to know her,hoping that she's good as person...
And after that,we'll be friends for some quite amount of time,to get to know each other,and after that something higher may happen (since I truly believe that you cannot be with someone in relationship if there are secrets between you)
Hmm.. I'd go into both, but more into personality.
People get attracted to another by first and foremost by what that person can show , i mean what stands out from that person. [i don't know why do i have to write that.. oh well..]
I can't blame those persons who have chosen the looks over personality since the looks or the outside of a person is what we see first. But still I think [sometimes..] that when you have a good personality, many people would still like you the way you are.
Errr...i'd say both. Because you cant just date someone or have a friendship with a ugly person with a good personality, well thats the way i think
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Of course, when you see someone, the first thing you think about is the looks. If you see a guy/girl on the street, you don't think "OMG THAT PERSON IS SUCH A NICE PERSON I CAN TELL". Wroooong. The first thing you ALWAYS and ALWAYS will look at is the looks.
When it comes to getting to know the person, the personality is very important, not the looks.
when it comes to relationships, when you're together with someone, looks are definately not important to you anymore. You just love the person inside.
I'd say they fill each other out, and some balace to it all ain't bad.
I wouldn't stay with a messed up sociopathic and vain woman, even if she was hotter than hell, at least not for the long run, nor do I believe I would be able to stick around with a fire-accident victim that's got the soul of Gandhi and Mother Theresa.
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Since I'm not really all that interested in relationships, looks. So long as the ... interlude is brief enough, I won't be able to tell how obnoxiously repulsive their personality is.
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I really dont care about looks; because this wanna-be girl judges me that way. I had a fight with her last year. :P
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Urgh, unless you've got an amazing willpower to force yourself to like something that somehow repulses you, let's lay of the political correctness and be a bit honest in that cynical way, ya?
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i think personality sometimes results on how you look on your attitude and facial expression, if i met a cute looking guy and he has this sweet looking face, he/she might end up with a rotten attitude and spiolt personality, makes one want to stay away from him, lists can be endless to how peoples personality is, comes to show theres more than meets eye to a person ^-^'
Both, but a bit more on the looks side to tell the truth. ^^;
Well I usually fall for the looks first... Then I'll see the personality.. If it sucks then no thanks.... But yeah both count to me... Personality sure is more important, I want something else than a decoration... XD
If the person has awesome personality but then he is like the ugliest guy I've ever seen it would be hard and (I guess) I wouldn't date... But he would be a firend... ^^
I have to say,personality matters,either in choosing friends,or a boyfriend/girlfriend.
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I say....... personality and looks go hand in hand. That is the way I see it a lot of the time, and I am more of a 60/40 guy (looks/personality) because they go hand in hand.
In fact I would go so far as to say PERSONALITY is the "added bonus".
Honestly, when I first meet some one I do think of their looks alone because really that's all I have to go on at that point. But when it comes to a serious relationship, I always try to find some one whose personality I'll know I like and can stand. For this reason, almost every single guy that I have ever dated was one of my best friends before either of us even started thinking about smooching. Well that's what I do, at least. I can't claim to know that's what they did, though.
And though I can't give solid proof, evidence could be found in the pictures of all the guys that I've been with in the past few years. All their appearances were all over the attractiveness meter. (couldn't think of anything better-shut up!) I've dated guys who were really scrawny, I dated a relatively attractive football guy, a guy who had some serious acne, and my last boyfriend was a really big guy.
Actually, contrary to the popular image of 'fat' people, my last boyfriend (the big guy), wasn't extremely lazy or engrossingly gluttonous. Whenever we went out on dates whether to a nice restaurant to eat a fancy meal, or to the lake, the park or his house to eat sandwiches and chips, he never once displayed unbearable eating habits. And we'd been dating for nearly a year and a half and in every other aspect of himself he never felt inclined to hold back or hide things in self-consciousness.
Every summer for the past 3 or 4 years he's worked as a counselor at a camp where he was never allowed to be tired and lazy. He was always running around with his kids, hiking, canoeing, playing soccer and he even mowed the acres of open lawns between the cabins every day. He was also a tuba in the marching band and during band camp at Northwestern State University whenever we walked from our dorms to the cafeteria for breakfast to the band hall for our horns to the stadium for marching practice, he was always making me work hard to keep up. All year long last year, he had to carry about 3 text books around with him constantly and even at his college campus of Northwestern he still has to carry ALL of his college text books around with him wherever he goes on campus and he's still a hell-of-a worker.
And as long as I've known him almost none of the conversations we ever shared, alone or with friends, had anything to do with food. The only time food was even referenced was when we were planning and arranging for a date. He was fun and cool. I don't know about you but that's not your typical vision of the personality of some one who is overweight. Seriously people: not every fat guy is a lazy gluttonous slob just like every black guy isn't an unemployed thug, every blond isn't a hot, clueless ditz, and every Mexican isn't a tamale-making 'wetback' with 14 children. GET OVER YOUR STUPID STEREOTYPES, LOSERS! It'll do you little good to continue to cling to them.
My current boyfriend, by the standards of others that I have seen that know him, isn't the most attractive guy in the universe, but for me, his looks have almost molded themselves into beauty and perfection since I have known him. It's a gift, really, that when I find a guy whose personality, his kindness, intelligence and humor enthrall and please me, my eyes turn him into the most beautiful person alive even if he wasn't when we first met. My eyes adjust the appearance of others to their personality, as I learn more about them just like when I meet a hot guy who slowly shows himself to be well... a but-face, my eyes make him appear as the most hideous person conceivable, without me even thinking about it.
And in any comparison between two guys, I will always jump for the guy with the better personality and lesser looks without even considering the hot guy with no kindness and personality. Hell, even if I found two guys whose personalities were equal but who had totally different levels of attractiveness, I'd probably still jump for the guy with the lesser looks but that's for other reasons that I'd rather not go into for the fact that this post is getting WAY too long and it's kind of difficult to explain in a way that won't make people think I'm weird. Plus I doubt anyone would believe me just like I don't think anyone'll believe me about everything that I just said but quite frankly I have no good reason to lie on this matter so I dare anyone to challenge me and my truthfulness. You will fail to prove me wrong or get me to admit to anything more or less than what I've just said.
Thank you. *peace*
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It's a lot easier to like someone with looks. I always found they could get away with a lot more. Like they have this way of looking at you and using their incredibly adorable puppy dog eyes to make you forgive them. I know it's shallow but I really am a sucker for looks. I'm a really visual person so I find it incredible easy to love someone for their looks.
BUT I'm also an incredibly judgemental and picky person. Call me a *AHEM* but I can be real harsh when it comes to who I like as a person. It's easy to get on my nerves, so naturally I wouldn't date someone I found mildly irritating, no matter how cute they are or how big their beautiful hazel eyes are.
You can count me in that. I am shallow. I can fall for someone good looking in a second. It can take forever for me to grow to like someone not so good looking. Still, it's proven fact that my relationships with better looking people always end up much shorter than those with the not so good looking people. Maybe it's about time I learnt my lesson.Originally Posted by Darkness2003
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Well, I'm going to provide some scientific insight to this. Do search the Internet for qualification but I do believe that this theory has been trialed and proven.
The mystery of attraction has long eluded us humans. So what makes one person more appealing than the other? What makes some of us gay and some of us straight? What makes one person appear better than the other? It all boils down to genes. The theory hasn't been proven for gay people yet but in straight people, we go looking for a partner that will provide us the best gene contribution for offspring.
This means that if a person of the opposite sex has matching physical qualities, your brain senses those bodily chemicals and signatures emitted through sight, sound, smell and touch and then translates these into a sense of attraction. So yes, looks are a factor and so is personality. Which is why, most couples who end up together often times bear different traits that work well together.
As for gay people, work is underway to prove that a hormone imbalance forces them to develop attraction for people of the same gender. Meaning yes, gay people could be born that way. If I find the link to that research I'll plonk it here but for the moment, this is all I can contribute. So happy sniffing to all those who are looking out there
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I have to say looks are very much important, I have to be able to hold down my meal whilst talking to her.
I am not saying looks is the most important, quite often I have seen someone I thought would make me throw up if they winked at me again, however getting to know someone's personality can make someone more attractive.
I think they are equally as important, to me anyway.
I don't believe not dating someone because they weren't good looking enough is shallow at all, am I forced to date someone with a personality match towards me just so I am not shallow? Surely you jest!Originally Posted by Darkness2003
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Both are pretty important. Their looks may be what attracts you to them but their personality is what keeps you interested. Great looks with a great personality would be best (even if pretty much impossible), but personality can make up for someone not looking like you hoped they would... to a point. They have to at least look decent. Can't help it, I'm a human male... I'm naturally attracted to pretty things. It's not too hard though, pretty eyes = big points, cute smile = major points. Just the way someone talks or laughs could make me like em a little more. Looks can't make up for personality (or intellect) though. Why be with someone gorgeous when they have the personality of a cinder block? Or they're baffled by the concept of turning a knob? I would always choose the less pretty girl who I get along great with over the beauty who I have a tough time holding a conversation with.
Looks are the bait, personality is the hook. That's the way I see it.
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