opinion: sex before marriage II

[Cat_Demon]

First of all. If you do not know what that means then why are you posting it? And second, sure ... you can test drive the car ... but what happens when you wreck it?

I know what he means, He means you have to 'test' the girl persay, then you can 'buy' it.

Hope that clears it up a little, I can't explain it to well or i might get more trouble from mods.

[Ami~chan]

I know sex is something not to be taken lightly. I don't care what other people do, I really don't. People who have one night stands don't disgust me; it's their body, and who they share it with is their business.

But on sex before marriage... No, I don't think it's morally wrong on any level. I believe it should be reserved for committed relationships, and should be between two people who absolutely know they love each other. If you keep your head on about it, and are responsible and mature, then sex can be a wonderful and furfilling experience. When you're stupid (i.e. We don't have to use protection. Pregnancy is something that happens to other people.) then be prepared for trouble. Having a baby before you're ready for it and getting an STD are things that will change your life drastically.

So, in a nutshell: Do whatever you want whenever, but keep your head on about it.

[Warrior5thelement]

I think sex before you get married isnt good to do. Cuss you can get std's or somehting even worese. You should respect your husban or wife your going to marry and at least talk to them about if you want to wait. But then some relationships dont last long. But the rest i agree with ami.

[Tsuna Kadiri]

When you feel you're ready, go ahead. But, like others have said, just make sure you're aware of the risks and what can happen.

Simple enough, I think.

[Prophet of Death]

LOL all you gotta do is wear a condom sheesh... Sex is enjoyable for both sexes so I say we should all sex it up...........

[Ωmega]

I remember when I first lost my virginity...it was to my fiance. We used a condom, and then I went on the pill. I think its ok, as long as youre a mature age (I waited until I was 18) and youre smart about it.

[wolf-on-the-hunt]

well with me it's honsly up to you and your partner....still one night stand's discust me the person did for the sex not because they loved the person.............besides i dont really care much if they are BOTH o.k. with it!!! if it isnt then it is just WRONG WRONG WRONG!!!!........well it may be true that guy's think with there pant's but if they say they love you and care about you...then use you and dump you....that is all too wrong!!!!... i girl (or guy) should never EVER under any surcomstance(sp?) be forced to to do that!!!!...that is my opnion so if ya got more to say to me pm me cause i dont plan on checking this thread again.................

[-Batman-]

Humans are animals. Animals have a natural desire to mate. Therefor, pre-marital sex is ok. Marriage was a concept of man, not nature.

[akiko_kalla]

Yet people can (and do) do all those things outside of marriage. If a couple just lives together for their whole lives without marriage, they do those same things. So how is a married couple's relationship more special than an unmarried couple's? Just a certificate?

And when couples are dating/courting, they love each other just the same and they have ups and downs. So it'll be the same in marriage; they'll still be there for each other... what's so special about it?

No, it is not the same as dating or courting. Perhaps living together for a number of years, but then you get into commonlaw marriage anyway. Regardless, when you are dating or courting, you only see these things on a superficial level as you are still learning about yourself and the other person. Granted I think we are always discovering those things, but you are especially unaware in a young relationship. (Young meaning number of years together, not age.)

Marriage unites two people in many ways. Legally, financially, etc. as well as spiritually and emotionally. The intimacy you gain with marriage is not the same as just having sex. Yes, sex is a physical way to be intimate, but if that is the only difference between your dating and your marriage I doubt it will work. The foundation of a marriage is love, not sex. You can have sex with love, but you can also have it as just lust. Marriage is not just lust.

The intimacy you have grows with time and you cherish the person more and more for the little things rather than their looks or sex. It is about truly knowing a person and growing old with them in a way only you and this person you share this bond with can. No, you do not need the piece of paper to state you are legally married, but then marriage isn't just a piece of paper either. In fact I know a great number of people who are not "offically" married because they do not need a document or religion to tell them they are bonded so closely to each other. But that is a religious belief that each person must decide for him/herself.

Basically, sex is only one form of intimacy and if that is your only separation between marriage and non-marriage I think most people will be sadly disappointed, especially as time goes on. Sex and looks fade, but true intimacy will last. If that intimacy is there, THAT is what is fueling the marriage; THAT is what is fueling the bond between the two; THAT is what is fueling the meaning of making love rather than just sex. Without that non-sexual intimacy, the act of sex is an act of lust, not love. At least this is what I have learned.

[Grim Scythe]

well i have no religous beliefs
and marriage seems to be a mainly religous ceremony
you draw your conclusions

[PigFarts]

Humans are animals. Animals have a natural desire to mate. Therefor, pre-marital sex is ok. Marriage was a concept of man, not nature.

You are absolutely correct. Sex is a natural thing that has been going on since the beginning of existence.

And the really only thing that is different between a married couple and a non-married couple who may be living together is the "ultimate commitment." I mean, with a non-married couple, the break-up is quite simple compared to the "break-up" of a married couple...the divorce. Divorce is a pain, okay? I don't know how it works completely, but my parents are divorced. You see, my mother married my father, who was catholic, so she married catholic, and divorce to the catholic church is "ERG!" So, now my mom is invisible to the catholic church, since she was the one who called the divorce.

Then there's a anullment which is just depressing...it's basically stating that the marriage "never happened"...and if you had kids, then they "never happened" either.

[Prophet of Death]

You and me baby ain't nothing but mammals so lets do it like they do on the discovery channel.

wow thats so true

[wolf-on-the-hunt]

hey look i did come back!!!!!!! marrige isnt realy a relgion thing anymore.....even pepole who are not religous marry.....but meh it's there choice really.........akiko's is right though...well if love WAS real and all.............it's stupid someone say's they love you then get's close and, WHAM!!!!!!!!!!! stab's you in the back get's what they want and then leave's you bleading..............hmmm it's kinda sad...meh all guy's are the same..they think with there pant's not with there heart......let alone there brain for that matter lol!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...hmmmm.................

[Keyasaffection]

i dont mind it.....

[wolf-on-the-hunt]

"you dont mind it"???? what are talking about keya?????? what do you mean???

[-Batman-]

stab's you in the back get's what they want and then leave's you bleading

...Do you realize that can be taken a number of ways.

[Keyasaffection]

i mean i dont mind ppl haveing sex befor marrige.....

[Sailor Chibimoon]

As what I've said in my previous post regarding this topic. Personally, I dont approve it. Sex before Marriage should not be praticed and must be ceased.
No one has the right to object me nor others point of view through mean responses and rather proof whatsoever, hence this is a sensitive issue which is rather taken seriously or for granted by different nations. People respond to this issue in different ways as it depends in culture, religion and personal belief. Write down your opinion, defend it, compliment others but dont object others. Also, everyone is entitled ofr their own opinion, right?

I agree. Its...sinful o_o; >>;

[Sasuke is God]

i don't think it matters ethier way! if u love some one enough 2 get married than u can forgive them 4 stupid mistakes! right??

[Masali]

Bah, The whole concept of "Sex before marriage being bad" is outdated religious beliefs. At least, that's the only place I know of it as being damnable. I say, if there's love involved (or none at all, I don't care) go ahead, as long as you know exactly what you're about to do. Running into a sexual relationship without planning ahead or thinking about what you're about to do is folly. But I really don't care either way. Oh, and If I've offended anyone because of their belief in the church's law, I am sorry...wait, no Im not! I couldn't care less, have a nice day =)

[Ollie]

Marriage isn't about sex

Well if it isn't now, it used to be. In Western culture, at least.

I won't before marriage. What's the use? A lifetime of diseases or a child just because of one night of carnal impulses?

I was wondering how long it would take before someone noticed that in every case of premarital sex one or both ended up pregnant/with several kinds of STDs. Seriously! It's a scientifically proven fact that if you have sex before you're married you'll not only be guaranteed to get HIV but you'll also be struck by lightening right after.

And then trampled by rampaging horses.

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[Eris]

Well if it isn't now, it used to be. In Western culture, at least.

Not really. That's pretty much post-puritanistic history revisionism (say that fast ten times). As a sidenote, the western world used to be a pretty ... kinky place back in the days. After all, the Renaissance was all about reviving the old Roman way (and that was one kinky place).

Yeah, I probably shouldn't be going into more details than that. History upsets the Christians.

[Ami~chan]

I was wondering how long it would take before someone noticed that in every case of premarital sex one or both ended up pregnant/with several kinds of STDs. Seriously! It's a scientifically proven fact that if you have sex before you're married you'll not only be guaranteed to get HIV but you'll also be struck by lightening right after.

And then trampled by rampaging horses.

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Haha... God, that made me giggle.

Just because you have sex before marriage doesn't mean you'll get pregnant or a STD. But I think that's where responsibility and maturity comes into place. There's still a chance those things can happen, ya know? Knowing your partners sexual history and using protection are things that can prevent anything from happening.

"An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure."

[Notthesameanymore]

Haha... God, that made me giggle.

Just because you have sex before marriage doesn't mean you'll get pregnant or a STD. But I think that's where responsibility and maturity comes into place. There's still a chance those things can happen, ya know? Knowing your partners sexual history and using protection are things that can prevent anything from happening.

"An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure."

I agree with Ami-chan(SO WISE ><) , it doesn't necessarily mean you'll catch it, I'm not sure if its all that easy either? oO I dunno. But I'm think-in my opinion- that sex before marriage is a little unsafe. Of course knowing your partners health history and past sex life could help also, cause you could end up catching an STD, or having unwanted pregnancy because of some retardedness, and one probably leaves the other, and the kid feels neglected and stuff....or maybe something like:

"Oh honey, I'm infected..."
"That's nice to know dear, after we've made love...and oh right, I'm pregnant with yo kid!"
That reaks havoc on a kid's life, i should know, one of them's my friends.

But anyway, the protection can be broken, or so my teacher says. She's single so..I really don't want to know o.O...she's...*shudders*

Anyway enough ranting, OPINION TIME!
I think its safer and possibly better if you're married first then have sex and catch whatever you want, and have all the kids you want, and either way, unmarried or not, I think you still have to support the kid...so they say >>....

~SqueeMaster has spoken

[pab]

plz dont critisize:
i know its wrong and i go against it.
but
if i wer in that situation, i'd think id be hard to say , no.