Originally Posted by
g0d_of_death
LOL. I'm sorry, but you two havn't been through that stuff. Personally, I have a friend who is anarexic, and cuts herself, aswell, and my gf cutts herself, and I used to cut myself. This is how it goes:
Anarexia:- if you want to help your friend, what I did was continued to enforce the fact that she needed food, and I kept getting mad at her when I found out she wasn't eating anything. That worked slightly, but an unexperienced person can only do so much. If you really want to help, you need to get your friend a doctor, you need to get her medical help, it's the only way. Either that, or somehow get her really happy. A good boyfriend would do the trick
Cutting:- this really depends on how long she's been doing it, why she does it, and how often she does it. When I started, I was able to quit 'cause I didn't do it for too long. I had just started cutting, do to depresion. This, as i know can be helped right away if you have a lot of support.
If she's been cutting for a long time, like my gf, and its become a daily thing where she does it to escape the harsh reality, I fear that there is not much you can do from such a distance. I want my gf to stop, but we live about 15mins drive away from eachother, even this distance is hard. The only way for her to stop, as she says would be if I was there with her all the time. So to stop her from cutting, she'd need a person she loves, to be with her all the time. A friend wouldn't suffice if it's become so serious, a lot of her friends have tried, but to no avail.
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There is really nothing you can do from that distance, as much as it pains me to tell you. Both of those things are out of your hands. You may really want to help her, but there is nothing you can do. I know you might feel really hopeless, but you can't do anything to stop it. Like I said, for the anarexia, you can try to force her to eat, but even if you do, it'll be hard for you to help her keep it down.
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