What i believe to be the three most important factors in a relationship, and why.
- One must struggle to express every little detail:
- Without honesty, there are missunderstandings. Which will lead to grudges, secrets, hurt feelings, and eventualy fights.
- Be honest about your honesty, nobody is perfect and everybody is bound to lie to eachother at one point. Admit to eachother that you have lied to them but are working to be as honest with them as possible.
- It doesn't matter how honest the other person is, if they don't trust your words then everything else will fall apart.
~Why these three go hand in hand~
Alot of common problems can be solved with communication. But for this to work it's magic *both partners must trust each other and be honest, even when it's not pretty.*
Through communication you can find out a great many things about eachother:
-Perhaps the two of you cause more harm to eachother than good. At this point, you might want to consider you both arn't suited for eachother and it would best to move on.*
-Maybe you'll find that the both of you may experience bumps down the road, and are willing to sacrafice and work hard for the sake of the relationship.*
-Or maybe you'll both be compatible enough *to the point of being soul mates, it happens.
Why this doesn't work for everyone: Most people arn't mature enough, or choose not to put effort into these important factors that can keep relationships strong. If this is the case, either you are not ready for a relationship, or the other person is not important enough to you to go the extra mile.
However, this does not go without saying that good communication is very hard to achieve. But even the slightest effort can wield wonders. Give a try, sit down with that one person in your life who you might have problems with, and express you want to get things out in the open.
-Jesse, AKA Explorer Oak.