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    after finding out my dad has a brain tumer and lung cancer im turning in to a carbon copy of my dad the alchohalic. now i became an alcholic some time ago becouse i was in a depresion thinking about someone i loved and lost and i feel my self sliping away in to alchoalisam agion. the last time i became one seeing my sisters reaction to what i was becoming gave me what i needed to stop drinking but i dont think that will work this time. i dont know what's going on with my dad wather hes dead or alive and that is just making me more and more depresed as the days go by knowing my fathers impending death. i know he wasnot much of a father becouse he was never there for me in my life but if it wasnot for him i wouldnot be here. i visited him in the hospital about 2 or 3 mounthes ago brought him an apple juice and i told him i loved him and he said he loved me back. the first time i rember him saying that to me and that broke my heart and i feel like im empty inside after seeing him in the hospital
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    Well, here is the hard truth. No matter what anyone tells you, says, helps, do.. It is up to you to change. All we can do is give words of advice, you have to make the push. Yes, it will be hard to quit. But you clearly don't want to be like this, you don't want it to affect your family. That's why you have to quit. Just keep thinking of that, make it your motivator. This may sound stupid, but write on a piece of paper and put on your bedroom wall or fridge or something, saying 'No More Alcohol'. May sound stupid, but this way you are constantly reminded.


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    Update my dad died September I think it was the 11the 2013 and I finds myself turning to alcohol to try and fill the fact he was never in my life. I knew he lived me but I did not understand why he was not there for me in my life until my sister said.he probley did not think he deserved to be in owe life which is far from the truth I loved him no matter what through all those years of never being here I still loved him. No matter how he felt about his kids or the real reason he was never there for us I still loved him and I was so happy to at least hear him say he lives me even though we had an extremely strained relationship
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    Default Re: help

    I find it funny how your signature says "Live life to the fullest because you are not guaranteed a tomorrow" yet you're here blubbering on like a baby pissing your life away with alcohol. Man up, handle your problems without drinking and move forward with your life. Stop being weak. Accept the facts, accept that you can't change the past and only look at the road ahead.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Яequiem View Post
    I find it funny how your signature says "Live life to the fullest because you are not guaranteed a tomorrow" yet you're here blubbering on like a baby pissing your life away with alcohol. Man up, handle your problems without drinking and move forward with your life. Stop being weak. Accept the facts, accept that you can't change the past and only look at the road ahead.
    I completely agree.

    Seriously, man up and stop wasting your life away with alcohol. It must be extremely difficult losing a loved one, but come on. Do you really think your father would want you to waste your life away and not being able to move forward? It may of been a strained relationship, but I seriously doubt he'd want that. Now, put down the alcohol and talk to somebody. Be it a relative or therapist. Its been 9 months so its time to do something.
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    I pissed a good deal of my life away with alcohol and drugs when life got hard and I lost loved ones. And you're talking to someone that's survived a drug overdose as well as alcohol poisoning. My step-mother died of cancer last February. If you seriously want help, there are places to go for that kind of help. There are charity places that specialize in mental health that the state takes care of. I went to a therapist for free in the city through charity to talk about my problems and "get help" an Anime forum isn't going to do much. Go look into free clinics and charity organizations. Look into AA if you have a drinking problem, get a new hobby. Lift weights, etc. But at the end of the day, you're the one that has to make that kinda call. All I or anyone can do is point you in the direction to go, whether you choose to do it is entirely up to you. But AF isn't the best place for personal matters. Seek professional help.

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    life is tough and life is cruel, my dad also has cancer..

    I would agree with other people, to make the right choice and attempt to quit this thing you've got yourself into, but it's only up to you whether you continue or not (like others have already stated)
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    Get your bottles, and smack them with a baseball bat. It's better to live and let live, kick bad habits, and move forward.
    Do it for your both you and your father. Make him proud.


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    Step 1: Log off of AF.
    Step 2: Go to Google.
    Step 3: Google AA centers in your town.
    Step 4: Pick one.
    Step 5: Call them.



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    I'm with the AA options man. You don't have to believe in all of the god crap they preach, but its an outlet for you with others that are suffering, and no one is there to judge.

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    Default Re: help

    Quitting a drug or alcohol for that matter, won't work if you're trying to do it for someone else. You have to do it for yourself. Or atleast that is what I've heard so many times. I'm kind of in the same situation. Well, from the very beginning I started in recovery it was for me, and me alone. People with kids tried quitting in order to be a good parent, but that didn't help.
    I'm sorry to hear about your father, though. I'm not trying to be mean, but At least you have still have the choice to be different from him. The best advice I can give you is to take one day at the time, but if you do as the others suggested with AA, or NA. I'm using NA since I was doing drugs, but alcholics is welcome there aswell. Anyway, you will hear all of this in their program. Find a meeting somewhere near you, and start attending. You only need to show up, and I'm sure people will give you a warm welcome. They usually do

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    I'm not going to tell you to quit drinking for good, I'd be a huge hypocrite if I did, but I will tell you this. Alcohol is a depressant. Drinking more of it while in an irregular state (ie: depressed) will only worsen things for you. I can't say too much myself, because I drink in such a state too. But I don't let it get out of hand, I don't do something irresponsible during or afterwards (like driving), and I don't drink in overly large amounts. At the most I've had 12 beers in one sitting, and that was on a weekend with nothing to do. Still, alcohol won't do anything for you that it hasn't done for me. It can't bring anyone back, it can't make your life better, and it can't help you get things together either. It's good that you're seeking help, even if in the wrong place (could be worse, a lot worse). Now you just have to take that first step to get your life moving. Sitting around in a drunken stooper won't do any good for you. You've got a whole life ahead of you, do you really want to live it in the bottom of a bottle?
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    I'll agree with the others on looking into Therapy if not AA. Trying to get therapy needs met via a forum is probably not going to go so well, though I guess I'd hope we're better than nothing.

    Though for my two cents I'd say that instead of just trying to drive emotions and habits out of our life try to find other things to add to it. People seem to function best with things to look forward to and when they have goals. And I don't mean vague things. I mean something you look forward to on a regular basis. And for goals I like the definition that a goal is a dream with a plan and a deadline. You can have big far away goals...but shorter term ones are better. And often the way to achieve a big long term goal is by breaking it up into chunks. Sort of like how one might break up a goal of a college degree consists of a series of goals needed to get into college, and then a series of goals related to classes, which are broken up into a series of goals related to tests and assignments.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ZombieWolf2508 View Post
    Step 1: Log off of AF.
    Step 2: Go to Google.
    Step 3: Google AA centers in your town.
    Step 4: Pick one.
    Step 5: Call them.



    There ya go.
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