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Did I say "every girl"? No, I didn't. I said we aren't wired to be just friends...there will come a time where a friend or us will want more than friendship.Originally Posted by Helvetica:2641641
Not everything is black and white like that.
Best thing about being bff with a girl: telling her she's fat, dumb, infatuated, badly/scantly dressed without holding back, and she has an IQ over 30, she'll take it as a friendly opinion to change her ways.
One of mine always punches me every time I criticize her, which I can punch back in the shoulder without holding back, because, who cares?
I think that its important for men and women to get beyond the "X gender is wired to do Y" excuse because its only valid in certain situations. There are guys who will want be something other than friends (or rather, want something that mere friendship can't produce), but that doesn't mean that it isn't possible for people of the opposite gender to be "just friends" with each other. Saying that either gender is simply "wired" to want more than friendship from the opposite gender is a bit degrading to both sides. We humans are beyond that; guys have the ability to control themselves and girls have the ability to control themselves.
Sure, there are guys who will want something "more" than friendship from their female friends, but I think that has a lot more to do with the fact that they are already close friends with a female, not that they are genetically "wired" to desire something more from them.
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I don't understand why this is even a question.
It's an obvious yes. I'm not even attracted to the opposite gender.
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Sure, why not?
No. I havent had a single good friend that actually wanted to be friends only with me.
I never trust a guy that openly says 'we are the best of friends'.
Within a short amount of time they will try to touch or kiss you, unexpected.
Ive been a fool for believing that a couple of times.
Real male best friends dont annouce the status of the relationship.
And yeah, there are special cases. I have one best friend now, male.
Though he admitted later on that he met with me since he wanted me.
But we got past that and thanks to his great character he never made a scene of it.
I still meet up with him every week and its fantastic.
So yes and no. Lmao, vague. I know.
Yes and No.
Man that is whack!
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Not everything is black and white like that.
And yeah... Ive met enough guys to know what an average guy is like.
I just had lots of negative experiences with males in overall.
Simply because I was kind and patient with them. They abused that all the way.
Right now... I cant be all 'sugar and spice' about it anymore.
But hey. Thats just one opinion from JUST somebody.
Dont take it too personal/seriously. They asked for an opinion, I gave it
yes its possible i have a few that i became friends with they n are still friends with that i am not attracted to
It's possible. Just make sure you're not sending them mixed signals, cause then you could be unintentionally leading them onto thinking that you're interested in them then more than just a friend.
Yes. Since highschool I was good friends with most the girls in the boarding house without having any romantic feelings involved. Now in uni, since all my friends are ~25 years old, we always meet up with girls and guys for casual beer in a friend's house without there being weird tension in the air.
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THis is a great question! I think you can be friends with the opposite sex as only friends, but its definately not going to be the same kind of relationship as it would be with the same sex. And there's definately going to be a lot of instances where they may think of each other as more than just friends. Long term relationships from my experience usually do start as friendships. Take for instance lovely clomplex. No spoiler of you haven't seen it but they started out with absolutely zero atraction and just clicked as friends turning into something more lol. But there cab definately be guy girl friendships.
The benefits! (And no not talking about those kind) you can definately get a lot of dating advice and actual work with them to be with someone you like lol again going back to lovely complex.
And I know most guys don't like to go shopping but I do especially with girls lol they can give me a lot of fashion advice and I can do the same for them lol. I like the girls point of view helps me decide what to buy and what other girls might find attractive
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First, ask yourself this question: what is your definition of friendship? And what do you value most in friendship?
In my book, I can be friends with anyone regardless of gender.
Boys and girls can be friends. I have a lot of guy friends and I'm all fine with that.
I've got loads of friends that are girls. Just treat them the same as your other friends :P
Thanks for the example Chigumi. This is what I'm talking about. The fact that one party or the other will eventually want more from the "friendship" aspect is inevitable.Originally Posted by Chigumi:2641836
Ask yourselves this question, "Why am I friends with xxxxx....?" And don't say, "cuz they're a good listener." That's a cop out and you know it.
Just be a nice guy. This will place you slap bang in the middle of the friend zone. And you'll never get out of there, try as you might.
I've derived this piece of scientific fact from sitcoms.
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