Can you be unhappy with gifts?

[SuXrys]

It's because all the possibilities you're naming are one to a million. (Like what if they put it in your hands or rub it to your face) Trivial things that you shouldn't make balls about.

Maybe not... BUT in that situation that you now mentioned; I think that "snapping" is definitely okey! xD

[Hanamaru Kunikida]

Maybe not... BUT in that situation that you now mentioned; I think that "snapping" is definitely okey! xD

In a nutshell, you shouldn't go apeshit if you don't like your gift, not matter the circumstances. It's rude and immature.

[SuXrys]

In a nutshell, you shouldn't go apeshit if you don't like your gift, not matter the circumstances. It's rude and immature.

Now im thinking me into the situation where im severe/almost deadly allergic to something, and then one person smears that thing that-im-so-allergic-to into my face - with the knowledge that Im terrible allergic to it. Then I won't stand silent - no matter what that person thinks. What if I will get a such a severe reaction that I will die? ... The one who was most immature was that person who smeared that stuff into that other persons face, then that person needs to be told so she/he won't do it again. I don't know if I would go "apeshit" but I really would have becomed angry and scolded them. You just don't do such things - especially not to someone who is that allergic.


Edit: im not sure if I missunderstood you or not... durp.

[Hanamaru Kunikida]

Now im thinking me into the situation where im severe/almost deadly allergic to something, and then one person smears that thing that-im-so-allergic-to into my face - with the knowledge that Im terrible allergic to it. Then I won't stand silent - no matter what that person thinks. What if I will get a such a severe reaction that I will die? ... The one who was most immature was that person who smeared that stuff into that other persons face, then that person needs to be told so she/he won't do it again. I don't know if I would go "apeshit" but I really would have becomed angry and scolded them. You just don't do such things - especially not to someone who is that allergic.

Then it's not a "gift" it's a bad prank or a bad joke.

[SuXrys]

Then it's not a "gift" it's a bad prank or a bad joke.

True. But in that case doesn't even other gifts (the ones you are not allergic to) that are re-given to you all the time, even if people know that you don't want them, also be considered as "bad jokes? Why else give some things to people that you know that they don't want? There is a limit to how numb some people actually can be.

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op: Im really tired right now. So I may not think properly atm.
and perhaps we are taking this too far. x)) höhöhö ~

[Hanamaru Kunikida]

True. But in that case doesn't even other gifts (the ones you are not allergic to) that are re-given to you all the time, even if people know that you don't want them, also be considered as "bad jokes? Why else give some things to people that you know that they don't want? There is a limit to how numb some people actually can be.

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op: Im really tired right now. So I may not think properly atm.
and perhaps we are taking this too far. x)) höhöhö ~

You're putting too much thought into this.

It's like you really want me to say "In the case I will beat the guy to death". O_o;;

[Datenshi]

So what do you do with a gift that you don't want at all? Perhaps a gift that you have told people many times that you don't want for different reasons, maybe don't have any room for it, already have x-number of that thing or perhaps even can't have it because you are allergic to it? But still every year, you'll get it - despise how many times you have told people that you don't want it. What do you do?


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Im not in this situation myself, I just find the topic interesting.

Realistically speaking, in this case, one highly probable explanation is that the person is already in the habit of giving the very same item to several people every year, and can't be bothered to change his/her pattern of behavior for the sake of one person (it's already marked down as such on his/her list of things to do for the year, so to speak). Maybe he/she is in a position to get the items cheaply or conveniently (my grandmother always sends me tons of produce from her fields), or maybe the act of going out shopping to buy them at this time of the year has come to take on a sort of symbolic significance for that person (as a sort of annual tradition), etc.

The way I see it, if you've (politely) let them know they shouldn't mind sending you the gift this year, and they do send it to you regardless, you can always get rid of it discreetly or pass it off to someone else, with nobody the wiser.

[Derrick Remon]

The way I see it, if you've (politely) let them know they shouldn't mind sending you the gift this year, and they do send it to you regardless, you can always get rid of it discreetly or pass it off to someone else, with nobody the wiser.

Yeah, I tried this before. My Aunt bought me a pink sweater (Kinda pink, but basically, and it had little elves on it, *pukesvomitspitblargarrowinthekneeshiza*) and she always expects me to wear whatever she buys me that year when we visit her the day after Christmas, and we usually go places for food, so basically, I look like a flamer with no hope for three hours. yeah, laugh away, because I would do the same.

[wolfgirl90]

I have a saying that goes:

"I know its the thought that counts. But if you weren't thinking, does it count?"

I am a little eccentric, so I don't have the same tastes that my family does. But, my tastes aren't really a secret, so it always perplexes me when when they end up buying me something I will never use or wear. For example, my mother knows that I love black and spikes, so one of the things she bought me was a spiked wristband. Loved it. But my uncle and cousins, despite their knowledge of my tastes (which they must know since they see me many times a year wearing precisely that), they bought me a deep blue scarf. Now, while my cousin specifically picked out the dark color for me (knowing I like dark colors), I never wear scarves and have almost no desire to wear them. So now what? Last year, I got two wallets from family members (one from the previously mentioned uncle and cousin), but I use neither, since I don't have any need for a new wallet nor did I express any need for one.

So now did I not only receive something that I don't like, I'm also saddled with it too (one year later, those wallets are still in the closet). Most of the gifts that I receive from extended family are things I can't use (e.g. two extra wallets, a pink jacket, makeup). They usually consist of items that they either think that I would like as a girl (NEVER a good idea; I'm not girly) or something they just thought up the day before (my sister and two of my other female cousins also received scarves ). The gifts feel like an obligation, that I have to receive something since they are going to the house of the family matriarch and I just happen to live in the same darn house. So they usually give me something without thinking about it.

The admission from my cousin that he picked out the color of my scarf is the first time in years that I have heard about any thought processes going on when it came to my gift. That felt nice (I might even stomach wearing the scarf). But receiving a gift that had no other point behind it than to be seen giving one (like a wallet I don't need)? At that point, receiving the gift doesn't feel good anymore.

[Meenah]

A few times I've been disappointed with gifts for these reason: it doesn't work, it doesn't fit, or it's not something of my interest.
Which is pretty rare for me. Other than that, I try to think that they spend the time trying to get me something and I do believe that thought counts. I mostly get disappointed when something doesn't fit me or the item doesn't work. I feel all sad. :c

[Derrick Remon]

A few times I've been disappointed with gifts for these reason: it doesn't work, it doesn't fit, or it's not something of my interest.
Which is pretty rare for me. Other than that, I try to think that they spend the time trying to get me something and I do believe that thought counts. I mostly get disappointed when something doesn't fit me or the item doesn't work. I feel all sad. :c

Its the thought that counts?

[Xeyuzio]

I like to be honest, let's just keep it at that.

[Remosaic]

I have a saying that goes:

"I know its the thought that counts. But if you weren't thinking, does it count?"

That my friend is an awesome quote!

No lie. Buying gifts is tough!
So I think about that when I open mine. Any amount of thought I can tell was put into it is appreciated.
Besides that...I prefer giving gifts anyway. Gives me an opportunity to sneak around. ;3
*sleuth* *stealthy* *sneak*

[Acnologia]

I think one should appreciate that someone thought of them to get them a gift, but you don't always have to like it, just don't flat out act rude since they DID give you something.

[Konata Izumi]

I'm usually quite happy with what I get. But if you are disappointed you should probably keep it inside, otherwise it's pretty hurtful towards the giver :/

[marvelangga]

The gift that disappointed me the most is a picture frame.

[SakuraKiss13]

I'm okay with any gift I receive just as long as it's decent.
I don't want receiving something rude of a gift. XD

[Phylloh]

I think the only time you can ever be really unhappy with a gift is if it's an opposite gender gift that you didn't specifically mention, other than that, it's a gift, shut up and take it

[SuXrys]

you can always get rid of it discreetly or pass it off to someone else, with nobody the wiser.

Ah! And then it becomes one of those gifts that just passed around through the family! xD

I have a saying that goes:

"I know its the thought that counts. But if you weren't thinking, does it count?"

It might be my limit knowledge in the english lanugage that is bothering my right now, but I don't understand that saying.
Can you explain it?

A few times I've been disappointed with gifts for these reason: it doesn't work, it doesn't fit, or it's not something of my interest.
Which is pretty rare for me. Other than that, I try to think that they spend the time trying to get me something and I do believe that thought counts. I mostly get disappointed when something doesn't fit me or the item doesn't work. I feel all sad. :c

If the item doesn't work, or if it doesn't fit you - do you ever ask for a receipt?

[Meenah]

People that gives me a present, they're usually from a close friend or family friend that ends up asking for my size and give me the correct one. Now, if it's from a family friend I let my parents know the conflict and they voluntarily tell the person it doesn't fit unfortunately. But before that does happen, I let my sisters try it out. xD I feel rather disappointed that I don't get the gift really from them, but I'm willing to give it up for my sisters. Well that's just in case if they fit on it, if not, the person who gave it to me exchanges it. haha

For other items, it comes with a receipt. I don't know why with clothes, I think it's just because they asked for the size to begin with and didn't expect it to not fit in well that's why.

[Arrisu]

As long as the gift isnt meant in any rude way, I appreciate it. In fact, I'm usually the only one in my family giving out like 20 gifts for different people, while I recieve about 3 gifts. I like making others happy, and I think that it's the thought that counts. I try my best to get something I know the person would like. n_n

[Remosaic]

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It might be my limit knowledge in the english lanugage that is bothering my right now, but I don't understand that saying.
Can you explain it?

I think if refers to how much the person cares about your approval of the gift. Some people could care less how much you like a gift or not so they buy some crap that you don't want just because it was on sale. You can usually gauge how much thought they put into a gift by their eager expression when your opening it.

If they really do care less, then should the gift really mean anything to you?

[wolfgirl90]

It might be my limit knowledge in the english lanugage that is bothering my right now, but I don't understand that saying.
Can you explain it?

People often say that "its the thought that counts", that even though the gift may not be something that you wanted, the fact that someone took the time to think of you and get you a gift in the first place is what should matter in the end.

However, my phrase poses the question "if you weren't thinking, does it count?" If you don't take someone's wants and needs (or even tastes) into consideration, or even worse, if you weren't actually thinking about whether the person would like the gift and are just going through the motions of giving them something (as if its an obligation), than does the gesture still count as "thoughtful"? Should one still give credit to a person for giving a gift when no actual thought was put into getting it?

[aerophobia]

People often say that "its the thought that counts", that even though the gift may not be something that you wanted, the fact that someone took the time to think of you and get you a gift in the first place is what should matter in the end.

However, my phrase poses the question "if you weren't thinking, does it count?" If you don't take someone's wants and needs (or even tastes) into consideration, or even worse, if you weren't actually thinking about whether the person would like the gift and are just going through the motions of giving them something (as if its an obligation), than does the gesture still count as "thoughtful"? Should one still give credit to a person for giving a gift when no actual thought was put into getting it?

NO, they should not...BUT usually what happens is you get a gift that you think is something like what you said above but you dont want to say anything just in case. Either because its from a family member or you're just not a pushy person and youd rather not risk offending them. Some people are just bad at picking out gifts, or it could just be a family member or friend you dont see often or haven't see in awhile so they dont know much of what to get for you so they try but fail and then you just think they didnt try at all.
But yeh, i mostly just grin and bear it when i get a bad gift. (Unless its clothes. if its clothes i just hold it up to me so they can see it wont fit and say something in a jokingly way and the other person will usually just offer the receipt then) I can just re-gift the item or give it away, if its clothes i can give it to charity.

[International 4-8818]

If i got a box full of aids, I would be pretty damn unhappy.