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Edit: im not sure if I missunderstood you or not... durp.
Last edited by SuXrys; 12-26-2011 at 06:34 PM.
op: Im really tired right now. So I may not think properly atm.
and perhaps we are taking this too far. x)) höhöhö ~
The way I see it, if you've (politely) let them know they shouldn't mind sending you the gift this year, and they do send it to you regardless, you can always get rid of it discreetly or pass it off to someone else, with nobody the wiser.
Last edited by Datenshi; 12-26-2011 at 06:58 PM.
"If a person who indulges in gluttony is a glutton, and a person who commits a felony is a felon, then God is an iron."
-Spider Robinson, God Is an Iron
I have a saying that goes:
"I know its the thought that counts. But if you weren't thinking, does it count?"
I am a little eccentric, so I don't have the same tastes that my family does. But, my tastes aren't really a secret, so it always perplexes me when when they end up buying me something I will never use or wear. For example, my mother knows that I love black and spikes, so one of the things she bought me was a spiked wristband. Loved it. But my uncle and cousins, despite their knowledge of my tastes (which they must know since they see me many times a year wearing precisely that), they bought me a deep blue scarf. Now, while my cousin specifically picked out the dark color for me (knowing I like dark colors), I never wear scarves and have almost no desire to wear them. So now what? Last year, I got two wallets from family members (one from the previously mentioned uncle and cousin), but I use neither, since I don't have any need for a new wallet nor did I express any need for one.
So now did I not only receive something that I don't like, I'm also saddled with it too (one year later, those wallets are still in the closet). Most of the gifts that I receive from extended family are things I can't use (e.g. two extra wallets, a pink jacket, makeup). They usually consist of items that they either think that I would like as a girl (NEVER a good idea; I'm not girly) or something they just thought up the day before (my sister and two of my other female cousins also received scarves ). The gifts feel like an obligation, that I have to receive something since they are going to the house of the family matriarch and I just happen to live in the same darn house. So they usually give me something without thinking about it.
The admission from my cousin that he picked out the color of my scarf is the first time in years that I have heard about any thought processes going on when it came to my gift. That felt nice (I might even stomach wearing the scarf). But receiving a gift that had no other point behind it than to be seen giving one (like a wallet I don't need)? At that point, receiving the gift doesn't feel good anymore.
This is my war face.
This is what happens to trolls who mess with me.
A few times I've been disappointed with gifts for these reason: it doesn't work, it doesn't fit, or it's not something of my interest.
Which is pretty rare for me. Other than that, I try to think that they spend the time trying to get me something and I do believe that thought counts. I mostly get disappointed when something doesn't fit me or the item doesn't work. I feel all sad. :c
I like to be honest, let's just keep it at that.
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No lie. Buying gifts is tough!
So I think about that when I open mine. Any amount of thought I can tell was put into it is appreciated.
Besides that...I prefer giving gifts anyway. Gives me an opportunity to sneak around. ;3
*sleuth* *stealthy* *sneak*
Last edited by Remosaic; 12-26-2011 at 09:59 PM.
I think one should appreciate that someone thought of them to get them a gift, but you don't always have to like it, just don't flat out act rude since they DID give you something.
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I'm usually quite happy with what I get. But if you are disappointed you should probably keep it inside, otherwise it's pretty hurtful towards the giver :/
The gift that disappointed me the most is a picture frame.
I'm okay with any gift I receive just as long as it's decent.
I don't want receiving something rude of a gift. XD
I think the only time you can ever be really unhappy with a gift is if it's an opposite gender gift that you didn't specifically mention, other than that, it's a gift, shut up and take it
Did I tell you to look at me? No? Good then get the hell away from me.
Ah! And then it becomes one of those gifts that just passed around through the family! xD
Can you explain it?
People that gives me a present, they're usually from a close friend or family friend that ends up asking for my size and give me the correct one. Now, if it's from a family friend I let my parents know the conflict and they voluntarily tell the person it doesn't fit unfortunately. But before that does happen, I let my sisters try it out. xD I feel rather disappointed that I don't get the gift really from them, but I'm willing to give it up for my sisters. Well that's just in case if they fit on it, if not, the person who gave it to me exchanges it. haha
For other items, it comes with a receipt. I don't know why with clothes, I think it's just because they asked for the size to begin with and didn't expect it to not fit in well that's why.
As long as the gift isnt meant in any rude way, I appreciate it. In fact, I'm usually the only one in my family giving out like 20 gifts for different people, while I recieve about 3 gifts. I like making others happy, and I think that it's the thought that counts. I try my best to get something I know the person would like. n_n
If they really do care less, then should the gift really mean anything to you?
However, my phrase poses the question "if you weren't thinking, does it count?" If you don't take someone's wants and needs (or even tastes) into consideration, or even worse, if you weren't actually thinking about whether the person would like the gift and are just going through the motions of giving them something (as if its an obligation), than does the gesture still count as "thoughtful"? Should one still give credit to a person for giving a gift when no actual thought was put into getting it?
This is my war face.
This is what happens to trolls who mess with me.
But yeh, i mostly just grin and bear it when i get a bad gift. (Unless its clothes. if its clothes i just hold it up to me so they can see it wont fit and say something in a jokingly way and the other person will usually just offer the receipt then) I can just re-gift the item or give it away, if its clothes i can give it to charity.
"“Loneliness is a disease that can lead to death. They might as well be the same thing.”---spice and wolf
“When you're surrounded by all these people, it can be lonelier than when you're by yourself. You can be in a huge crowd, but if you don't feel like you can trust anyone or talk to anybody, you feel like you're really alone.” -- Fiona Apple
If i got a box full of aids, I would be pretty damn unhappy.
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