People are just afraid of being alone. Its just human nature.
oh good point. let me clarify that while i mentioned girls the same certainly applies to dudes as well. i sure know i've been guilty of "clinging" in the past. oh high school....
So all in all, people fear being alone thus the cling and the divorce rate.
yup, if you prefer life to be drama free then you need to be a well adjusted individual with another well adjusted individual. but where's the fun in that? (i'm dead serious). the tension makes the loving that much better!
I'm happy now to be single... I think to have a boyfriend for now is disgusting me... dunno why
Happy? It would depend on your definition of happy now, wouldn't it? ... Just ignore that comment.
Anyways, I wouldn't know if I would be happier with someone or not since I've always been single. I've never really wanted to be with any of the people where I live because I either dislike them, see them as friends, or people that are just there. Well, except for one of my very good friends. I might be falling for that person, but then again I wouldn't know for sure.
Overall, I'm a tad on the gloomy side already so maybe it wouldn't really matter for me. Or at least people say I'm gloomy... Meh.
I have to say I'm not single by any means but my bf and i live in far different location so i'm always by myself and it doesnt bother me because i'm happy..I have a lot going on for my life and having someone to talk and share some details with only makes it better...
Females should be more independent but depending on how ur raised thats a lot to ask of some persons.
currently annoyed with the girl i like's mom and her friend because now someone else is going to the movies with us wich i had planned to be just me and her and now because of her mom i have to get yet another person to come with us. I love how the world you know what blocks me.
unless you somehow end up not sitting next to her during the movie/food place afterwards. if that happens...then yes, you got *SQAWK* blocked
Well as for me i under the ups and downs to be in a relationship i been in soooo many to, too many to count but i like having a gf but it is alot of work but im glad i found the one im with now cause she makes things alot easier and its way easy to keep her happy plus shes a huge ANIME AS WELL LIKE ME. WOOOO ANIME but anyway i understand how you feel. so if you thik being single is how you wanna be then stay that way dont let anything or anyone make you do something that you dont wanna do or not ready to do.
yes u are right but do u honesty mean it alot of humans say that they dont need anybody but then they start to feel "lonely"(watever that is) and then they get depressed cause they dont have anybody
Girlfriends (and boyfriends for girls, or whatever floats your boat) are nice to have, but if you plan to be content and stay with someone for a long time, there are a few things to keep in mind.
The first and the major one is pretty easy and should be a no-brainer, which is to find someone with some common interests and you get along with. If you're with someone for the reason of them "being a gain/benefit for you", then you are in a relationship for the wrong reason. I could expand this to go deeper with what I mean by this, but to sum it up a relationship is balanced. It's a give and take situation, not one doing more for the other or something of the likes.
Nobody will directly die from being alone, but I agree that a lot of the people in today's world are incapable of being in a good relationship because they are... ignorant, naive, or just handicapped mentally into thinking just being involved in a relationship will make life better and happier.
I'm just enjoying life and I'm sure I'll meet someone that I'd like to have fun in life, possibly settling down into something more intimate.
Frankly if a woman thinks that a man is going into a relationship thinking that it's not about sex, it's her fault. I'll give you a rational number with no statistic that at least 80% of men were in the relationship at the start for sex. Sooner or later the guy starts to fawn over the girl and eventually (Imagine a ridiculous clown voice for this one) "fall in love".
And of course I'm aware that there are married women on the forum and come to their husbands defense and say "My husband loved me very much from the start", but who are you kidding?
I think it would be nice if guys would just stop beating around the bush and just come out with what they want.
Should I find myself meeting a woman someday that I feel as though she might be "the one", for lack of a more appropriate term, I've already come to the moral decision that my first and foremost priority with her is simply to sustain her happiness and keep her safe. In my eyes, one of the very best ways to prove one's love for someone, a woman in this case, is to see her happy, even if that happiness is not necessarily with one's self. Selfish thoughts such as claiming her as one's own and always having her by one's side are nothing more than a fallacy some try to pass off as love.
Of course this isn't to say that I wouldn't like to have that kind of relationship with her if it's possible. But I've learned that's not always up to me, so I simply have to play my proverbial hand the best way I can while staying true to myself. That's all.
So it doesn't really help out too much saying that you're not into just sex or saying that you turned it down before, but it surely doesn't hurt you either.
I do think that I should add. I've only dated TWO people in my life time. Neither of which I asked out but was set up by a friend of mine. One ended up being a a very crumby girlfriend.
So then about two months ago, I finally was "man enough" to ask this girl at work out on a date and she said to me before I could even finish the entire thing: "WHAT! What do you want!? No! Get a way from me!". -_- She apologised later for it in a text message but what makes you think I'd be in a hurry to ask anyone else out. That is the only person i've ever asked out on my own. And now it probably has made me far to nervous to approach any femail. >_>
First of all, congrats to all that have been in a relationship.
And as you read this, remember I am a guy who is stright.
I don't believe that everyone has to have someone to be happy, sadly though I am not one of those.
One thing that I don't understand is why people, who have fallen in love, real love, can just brush it off. Even if it is not love, you were able to feel some joy, however brief it may be, in you heart. The thought that even though you are one person in the world, to one person you were the world, must be an amazing feeling.
I personally have never had the joy, and deeply fear that I never will.
The way the world looks at love and the way a girl and the way a boy should act has warpped the meaning of true love.
The world view: The guy is a strong, manly, tough as nails, person that can throw a football 500 yards, while repairing a cars, at the same time benching 350, in order to be called a "Man".
The girl needs to be skinny as a twig, hot, stuckup, and self absorbed in order to be called a "Woman.
A man or woman that doesn't fit those description are not fit for love.
Who I am: I don't like sports, can't repair a thing unless it is electronic, not in the best shape, "but that doesn't mean I am fat and weak", very emotional and have empathy, and something I call cutsy (meaning very sweet, it is hard to describe unless you are). But what does is the world's view of that, they would say I am a "girly boy" which is not an insult to me.
But when in a group of friends, it is my friends that fit the description of a "Man" that attract girls. I have tried several times but girls only want the "bad boys", so I feel the sting of rejection.
I guess I am forced to believe a line in a song that goes "It's like love, some people get it, for others it's like a glove, they just never fit it."
So since I am living in a world were, to girls, I am not "Manly" I am forced to hid my true self under masks, not being who I really am, but just being quite and just another face in the crowd.
Someday, I hope that there will be a girl out there that can remove that mask, see the true me, love me for who I am and we never let go.
Most guys reading this may think I am a wimp or stupid, but I am not. Most guys try to see how many girls they can date and are always looking for the next best thing.
I believe that maybe, just maybe, some girl will love me, and from the first time we ever hold hands and kiss to the very last time before death, my heart will skip a beat and she will always take my breath away.
I hope you guys and girls read this, and I would like your honest opinion on what you think about my belief, positive or negative.
Its unfortunate to hear that among the girls you've interacted with, they are still in the "i like bad boys" stage. There are many girls out there that are looking for those exact traits that you happen to have. You just need their attention. Unfortunately girls usually dismiss guys immediately unless they are introduced from a friend, the guy is handsome, the guy is rich, the guy is a celebrity, a smooth talker, or the girl is not used to getting hit on.
Whats annoying is that many guys take rejection so personally after hitting on a girl they saw/met minutes ago. If its someone you've known for years its understandable to be hurt but don't let that feeling control your life. I don't think you're a wimp or stupid. You just need more confidence in yourself and try not to search for love. Great things come when you least expect it. Thats what makes it so great.