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Love at first sight.; your thoughts
Guys, I don't know what's wrong with me. :(
So I saw this guy at my busstop, never saw him before but apparently lives in the same village as me, but anyway I didn't gave so much attention to him. But when we got off the bus and went into the train we both had to take, he couldn't stop staring at me. I thought this was really weird.... and now I can't stop thinking about him. >__<
I want to know who this guy is! I've lived in this village for 17 years, how come I never saw him before... But this isn't love at first sight, is it? I mean, I just want to know the fella's name... And why he was staring at me...
-sigh-... So what are your thoughts about this situation... Do you believe in love at first sight?
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Re: Love at first sight.; your thoughts
I certainly do believe in love at first sight ^.~
But i doubt thats what this is x3
inquire next time you see him! Maybe he's got a 'love at first site' thing for you, and you're both looking up at the same night sky..wondering who each other is...;w; ohmygod FIND HIM!!!
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Yes, I do believe in love at first sight, You better find that person, Hunt him down.
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This sounds like love at first stare to me, haha. I'm a little specific when it comes to "Love at first sight". Love is too powerful and too deep of a concept to develop in an instant. If you see someone that takes your breath away I see that more as "Strong attraction at first sight". Love shouldn't be a term thrown around all willy-nilly, also Love is a two way street because unless this other person has the same strong feelings for you then that "love" is just "obsession".
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^I agree. Maybe this is some kind of connection between you two. I guess if you believe in the universe working in mysterious ways this could be one of its doings ;o Meaning maybe it isnt a coincidence, maybe this connection happened for a reason... or maybe not... lol
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I agree with Blackwaltz. I feel like the whole 'love at first sight' thing was always a little strange. I feel like you can develop an attraction to someone in an instant, but you really don't know anything about them. It has always seemed more of a lust thing to me, because how many times have you seen someone on the street that you thought was attractive so you took a few extra seconds to glance at (not in a creepy way). Who knows though.. I knew my boyfriend for about a year before we started dating. In my eyes, love is something that needs time to develop and allow you the time to realize that it is more of an emotional connection, rather than a physical one.
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^I agree that sometimes you see someone you find attractive. But sometimes I find myself seeing more than just physical attraction. For some reason our eyes meet, and we notice each other. Through this glance its like you realise something about that person, you feel a connection, which runs deeper than the physical outer appearance.
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Meh, I think I rather believe in "attraction" at first sight instead of love. Like, in order for me to love someone, I'd have to get to know them (personality wise and all that other stuff)
But at first sight, you can't really control your feelings :P
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Heh, I must be weird.. Because 2/3rds of the times I've fell in love, Couldn't stand them at first.. Love/hate?
I don't really believe in love at first sight.. Attraction at first sight? Yes. Love? No. You have to connect and bond with someone in order to truely love them. Something that requires much more than a mere glance.
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Hmmm, You guys have a point and perhaps it is phycical attraction (because he was kinda my type).. But usually I'm not the type of person to think so much about one guy that just stares at me.
Staring happens a lot (male and female, I'm not a typical dutch person with 'blond hair and blue eyes' so people tend to stare at me), but I didn't care about those guys.
But this is different, and I never experienced this before, I'm not the type of person that thinks a whole lot about her crush (or bf's... oopsie)..
And I don't like it. *grumpy face*
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^Here's a story linking to you: In Paulo Coelhos book "Like a flowing river" there is one (true) story of a man who was approached by a beggar woman in Europe, he declined her request and gave her nothing and went back home to Brazil. But it kept bothering him on and on and on. So he decided to go back to that place and find that woman and give her what he had refused her that day. Eventually he found her, they had a wonderful short meeting, and then they went their separate ways ;>
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Woah, sounds like a good story! Maybe I should read that book :)
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The book is stories both true and fictional told from Paulo Coelho. Stories that have touched him. Some are letters written to him, some are first hand experience, others are from old texts. So it doesnt go deep on the subject we're talking about, but there are a few that have this theme.
Anyways the point is, if you have the courage, maybe you should look for him, if the connection is strong enough, if your aggravation is that bad maybe you really dont want this chance to go to waste and never knowing what could have happened.
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I know, but I also need to find out what kind of person he is.. I had a relationship with a guy I THOUGHT I knew.. But oh boy were I wrong. So I won't jump in a relationship that quickly. It's just the curiosity that's killing me, I think.. I hope.
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Well its not like you're gonna find him and then be like hey lets start a relationship! ;P If you find him, I guess you can get to know each other and see if it really was special, if there really was a connection between you two. And then just take it from there, maybe it will work into a relationship or maybe a friendship or maybe into nothing at all. Isnt that the main point, just finding out which one it is? You're not gonna find that out until you actually meet him.
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Haha, noooo definitely not! :P I'll try to find him and just say 'hi' to him and who knows what happens.. But the thing I'm scared about is that he doesn't recognize me anymore. On the other hand, if that happens I know that it was just a staring game and had no extra meaning to it.
By the way, are you speaking out of experience?
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Yeah if it really was something special for both of you I also think he should recognize you.
Well I am to an extent. I went to the supermarket and for some reason this girl in the cash desk was looking at me, in a way I interpreted as almost as if she knew me, I felt it but I acted like it wasnt anything special. Then once I sat outside my school and talked to someone, and she passed by, we again exhanged glances and I felt this energy that it wasnt just any glance, it was more than that. I see her time to time again but I dont act on it because I dont think it will lead to anything even if we had a few special moments. I somehow make up a story that she is like me, but then I say no, you are delusional, she's not like you, you dont know anything about her.
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Re: Love at first sight.; your thoughts
Hmm, do the rare thing, and be the girl that starts the conversation instead of the guy starting. Well, unless he does of course.
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For me, I believe it takes more than one sense to determine whether a certain arousal is love or lust. But it happens, so who am I to argue with what works for millions of people?
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Isn't love just grand? <3 Mayushii I believe you should go up and introduce yourself. Don't ask about her glancing at you all the time, just say "Hi I'm <so and so> what's your name?" It's an odd way to start but it gets you in the door. Then you just say you've seen her around a lot and have wanted to say something to her for a while. Then you're good!
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Yes. I believe in love at first sight. It happens to me with every girl I meet.
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Blackwaltz
Isn't love just grand? <3 Mayushii I believe you should go up and introduce yourself. Don't ask about her glancing at you all the time, just say "Hi I'm <so and so> what's your name?" It's an odd way to start but it gets you in the door. Then you just say you've seen her around a lot and have wanted to say something to her for a while. Then you're good!
Nah I have forgotten about it already ;> Perhaps another time, for this time I am simply not ready.
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I believe in "Attraction at first sight" but Love? It's such a strong word to use since you have only seen the boy once right?
But love is the thing that pops out of the blue. So be prepared :3
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I'll side with the "attraction" at first sight vs "love" at first sight.
Though there is often more going on than just looking at their body. You can pick up a lot pretty quickly in terms of body language and how they carry themselves, what they're wearing/have on them, what they're doing and how they're acting at the time, and maybe even pick up on some pheremones.
Of course the guy could be a colossal jerk (and a lot of the people who provoke love at first sight responses are, because they deliberately cultivate their image and are used to getting and exploiting that response).
Still, if you aren't in a relationship why not talk to them?